why would you want to have aspergers syndrome: it sucks.

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no one cares about aspies...
this makes me mad... ignorant/arrogant fools...

list of people in my family who don't care.
-parents
-grandparents
-step parent
-cousins
-step cousins

being an aspie gets you nowhere in this world

I severely hate having Asperger's too. All the good points about me are traits of it that I don't have. Like I like the way I can recognise body language and other things like that, but that's not an Aspie trait of mine obviously.

Stupid f*****g Asperger's, why has it chosen me and nobody else? And trust me to be born an Aspie with a JEALOUS trait??? I just spend most of my time dwelling on the social skills my cousins have all got and what I haven't. I am trying my hardest to make more friends that I can spend time with, so I can take my mind off of what my stupid cousins are doing.

Can I request some clarification, please?

These relatives don't care (the meaning of "don't care" being interpretable as either referring to "personal care" (i.e. in the sense of looking after someone, or 'taking care' of them) or "emotionally-indifferent or even negative", which is unclear):

And this alleged lack of care is:

1) BECAUSE you have AS?
2) REGARDLESS of the fact that you have AS?
3) Refusal to accept that you have AS, or that it is relevant to them (i.e., they "don't care" about your diagnosis)?
4) Or they don't treat you with what you consider to be appropriate behaviour, considering you have AS?

Or some other possible interpretation that I've missed.

You undeniably communicate your feelings of unhappiness, but the circumstances of that unhappiness need to be explained, so that people here (including me) can respond appropriately (beyond general expressions of sympathy).

Last edited by CharityFunDay on 09 Nov 2013, 2:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i have control freak/perfectionists parents and brothers..
i see that they ain't perfect... but they harass the **** out of me
you want to drink in the basement and eat in the basement we will harass you to bring up the dishes every F$%@ing 5 seconds...
wow...

settle down people he ain't dangerous

man nt's are messed up.

Joe, when you are not being so down on yourself I think you are a really lovely and interesting person.

You have more to offer than you think sweetie.

I think most of the people on this board do. Whether I am on the spectrum or not I find people with Asperger's to be some of the most interesting people I have met (and I have met someone with Asperger's many moons ago..he was very smart, very funny and very sexy!...he was male so I found him attractive, very much so).

Don't hate yourself, I have read some of your posts, you seem like a lovely person and much politer than most people I know.

NT's with prejudices are the ones who should be ashamed of themselves, not you.

these nt's are soul-less people... not all nt's are like this but some are.
they care only about hurting you and money

basically anything i do is wrong to them...
i wish i could move out but
it's the money that is the control issue
all about control: again..

now odsp isn't enough and i want to live in my own house not a rented place...
even helping them save money makes them mad...
they are ****ed in the head... so much that they would be distracted by a television or work... and not know what planet they live on..
i think they will get the wake up call once it is to late for them... my prediction...

You know what else gets you nowhere in this world? Moping and self pity. Convincing yourself that you face obstacles that are insurmountable. Know how I know that? I've wasted years of my life thinking that way, that's how. It's completely non-productive. AS is nothing that should prevent you from accomplishing pretty much whatever you want to. It may make doing some things harder, but that should never stop you from achieving a goal.

As for the people in your life you think don't care - it may be true that they don't understand you - their brains are programmed with a different Operating System than yours, so they will never really see things the same way you do. That's not their fault, or yours, it's just the way things are. If they truly didn't care about you, you'd be living on the street. After a while you'll just learn not to bother trying to explain your point of view to people who are not capable of understanding it. It's frustrating and it wastes your time and energy.



If "nobody else" had AS, there wouldn't be a Wrong Planet website where thousands of autistic members could come to commiserate over the difficulties of living with the same neurological dysfunction.

And surely you realize that autism didn't "choose" you. Life is a crap shoot. This is the way your dice fell, play what you got.

Don't get me wrong, I know very well how difficult AS can make things, I live with it every day, just like you do - but I'm also thankful that I didn't end up with something even more difficult. At least I can see and hear (even if both are a bit overwhelming at times) and my arms and legs all work properly. I know there's plenty to complain about - and I often do - but try to keep it in it's proper perspective. Things could be much, much worse.

hey if you had bullies and disrespectful parents in the past... it builds the character of the person i'm today...
i just cloned their negative actions... but they are bad input
garbage in garbage out

To me, it's not wanting to have it, so much as accepting that it's part of who you are. Much like your height, race, eye color or gender.

my family tries to change me.. everytime... but that is impossible.... here you go a pill that will make u an nt...
excuse me but a pill is not me... you then should call the pill the person you are trying to change... impossible... sorry

It is hard but you have to find the nt's that are not soulless control freaks. Nt's in general are not hurting you the particular nt's that are your family are the ones hurting you. Rental is not what you want but rental gets you away from your clueless controlling family and gives you the possible opportunity to meet good nt's. If that happens it will change your mindset which may give you a better chance of eventually getting the house you want.

"Aspie pride" and "Aspie acceptance" you see expressed here is not a matter of wanting it but trying to make the best of the situation they are in and in some cases taking action to demonstrate to the clueless controlling NT's that they are wrong.

It does complicate things quite a bit. But I'd rather be me than them.

This is my thought 6 days of the week. The other day I am thinking about flying on a broom.

A way one could look at this:

Either you have Aspergers or you wouldn't have been born.

If you didn't have Aspergers, you wouldn't exist - so the only question left is whether death is better than living a life with Aspergers!



Remember, "all" Aspergers means is that you have a cat's mentality instead of a dog's. The problems arise because the majority of people have dog mentalities.

thanks.. but the fact is that after a nt meets an aspie he changes into a complete jerk... that happens to me... people are stupid and arrogant

Would you like to have been Socrates? Or Jesus? In other words would you prefer to be remembered like them? Or Hitler, etc that were extremely popular with their contemporaries.
People forget that Jesus WAS extremely unpopular. "They" even chose Barrabis (a petty criminal) over him!