Still Alone at the 22nd

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I'm just so lonely. I have my friends, but as we come to my 22nd birthday, I still haven't had a girl in my life. I've only had a few acquaintances and even in those cases it wouldn't have worked out. In my phone right now I have 50 or so contacts, if you take out family, work, places, and people whose number I have in my phone because I needed to talk to them like one time, I would say I have around 20 and out of that 3 girls.

One of them I graduated college with and I only had her number because I went to a huge party at her house one time and struck out about 5x there. Besides that we had projects together and I'm sure she liked me as a friend but she was pretty dumb so probably chose me because I was one of the smarter kids in class. Plus she had a boyfriend anyway and even if she didn't, she wasn't really my type although she was a nice girl, so I probably would of pursued it.

Another one was a girl who used to chill with me and my friends in the lounge at the previous college I went to. We used to play pool and foosball all the time. I liked her but my friends had first dibs (bro code) and when they struck out, I was going to try...and then I find out she's moving to Florida, lol.

The 3rd was a girl I haven't talked to in like 3 years, so I don't even know why she is still in my phone. I went to high school with her and she obviously was in a higher standing then me, so both of us kind of knew that when we sat together in class because we didn't know anyone else and it would be easier to get through it with someone else (she actually had to help me more...damn calculus)

So yeah...that's it.

Outside of that it is all the stories I have told before. Luck is just not on my side. I'm being realistic but I'm nothing to drool over. I'm pretty decent but I'm short so that doesn't help either.

I'm just depressed about it. I hear stuff my friends are doing and it just upsets me more. My one friend has like the perfect girl. She's gorgeous, she's friendly, likes the same things as my friend (music, movies, video games, etc...) and they are always happy with each other. They went to a cabin for a weekend in the summer near a lake for his birthday. It's not that I'm jealous because I'm happy for my friend(s), but I just want to feel these feelings in my life.

I really just don't understand it. I just feel like a lot of things are going against me and all I want, all I'm asking for is one person. Now I am working and I'm just not too sure how I'm going to find anyone. This is another laughable moment for me...On my floor I am the only guy with 12 other girls...not one of them are under 37.

But anyway I don't know anymore. I'm going to re-join the gym soon but I still won't have that thing (school) that can jump start the conversation. I work at a plaza so there are other people who walk around before work, during lunch/breaks. There is a girl I see all the time walking by that I'm interested in but it just seems so weird to approach someone while their walking and try to hit it off. Same would go for the gym.

I don't know I'm just very confused and I just don't have that "glass half full" mentality anymore. This just feels hopeless. I've never been good with talking to girls and now that I don't have that medium to help me (school) it's tough sledding.

What do you all suggest? Thanks

I may as well have wrote the above post.

It is really bittersweet to see your friends getting everything you ever wanted. Very happy for them, but it is tough to have to see it that close to you. It really ticks me off when they take it for granted.

I'm seriously considering getting a dog. Then there would be someone happy to see me come home every day, and to hopefully help meet women.

I have similarities to this post. I'm 22 never really experience intimacy and have friends that are in or starting to be in serious relationships. However the more you dwell on feeling lonely, the more you are going to feel that way.

One of my Friends, Girlfriends has suggested that i go on a Contiki Tour, because it is a way of meeting new people and it will help you open yourself to other things in life.

The other thing suggested as well, My psychologist has suggested that, I get a pet, it will teach me to take care of something. One thing that you truly have to aware of when wanting a relationship is not be all take, you need to give back and a pet will more than likely open you up to this.

Hang in there fella, Its not easy, but do things in the moment, which will shape the long-form.

yeah, I'm 32 and never had a single date....so don't feel too bad, you still have plenty of time to find someone. Me, I'll probably just die alone pining for my best friend as she's unlikely to ever return my feelings

I am a girl, 22 in a few months, and I feel the same.

26 and the same.

don't feel bad. I'm 31 and never had anyone, either. And not for not wanting one.