New member, parent of a little boy with Asperger's

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Hello,

I'm new here and coming to the board to interact because there is not a lot of parental support in my area. I have a 6 year old boy with Asperger's and many times, I'm note sure how to proceed with various aspects of his upbringing. You can expect me to ask about your experiences to see if they help my boy.

Once I have experience, I'd also like to help other members.

Thanks,

- netgeist

Welcome!

Welcome from me too. My little one was 6 once - he'll be 30 next birthday. We survived!

Greetings and welcome to the Wrong Planet. I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for.

I was a 6 year old with Asperger Syndrome once!

'Course in those days it was just called "being weird."


In fact, that's still what most of my friends and family call it.

Welcome! I'm an aspie mom getting an 8 year old evaluated. Took a while to realize it because his behavior seemed perfectly normal to me lol... So I can help from a lot of different angle. Feel free to PM me any time.

\/\/elcome

Welcome to Wrong Planet! Back when I was 6 (that was light years ago) they didn't have any such designations as AS. I was simply "different" and strange.

Hello and Welcome.

I'm guessing you mean there is none in your area.

I'll put one thought in your mind to begin with. We are very litteral people.
What you say, is what we expect you mean.

Be sure to read through the posts. There are many good ones, and some nasty ones. But it is all understanding for you.

And congratulations on a son, and getting him diagnosed. That is quite a trial in itsself for some members.

Hello, and welcome!

Hi. My son is 9. He was diagnosed about a year ago. I have been through the whole process if you have any question feel free to pm me.

Welcome.
Here are some tips. Protect him from bullying. It's very destructive, and Aspies have a difficult time recognizing it. Enjoy him as the unique individual he is. Remember that AS is not a disorder. It's another way of thinking an experiencing the world. We are literal people. Avoid using phrases such as "happy as a clam". It's difficult to imagine happy clams. Try to avoid religious indoctrination. Sometimes religion appears silly and nonsensical to us. Remember that he may not respond to your nonverbal cues. Use your words and make them concise. Pretend you are giving instructions to Amelia Bedelia. Most of all, be his strongest advocate.

welcome to the whanau

I am approaching 30 and have only just been diagnosed although my mother and teachers have been suspicious since I was 5.

[This is all based on personal experience]

The great thing about Aspies is that they are very capable of keeping themselves entertained and can be left alone without worrying if they are OK and not causing any problems. It will be difficult to encourage them to talk about things that bother them because their train of thought is constantly jumping tracks.

A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself how quiet they are on a scale of 1-10. The more unhappy I am the more quite I am and I am most probably holding something in and trying to deal with it. You will not be able to stop him from being bullied at school but you can get them to understand why a bully would be a bully and let him forge his own ways of dealing with these things.

If there is something that he feels good at doing - encourage it as much as you can and always get him to be confident at doing what he wants and making his own choices as he will understand more about himself quicker, faster and be more efficient as an adult.

I am sure you will get lots of support post-diagnosis so best thing is not to panic

Only one thing I know for sure. Your son is beautiful, don't worry your doing fine.