Help. Not sure if I have asperger's...

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sorry if i'm rambling. this is kind of longwinded lol. thanks if you read the whole thing.

Hi, I'm new to wrong planet and fairly new to Asperger's as well. Ran across Asperger's Syndrome by chance on this website called six billion secrets and looked it up because I'd never heard of it. I was reading the symptoms and it sounds a lot like me but not as severe. on one hand I think that I have Asperger's because i've always felt different and i notice a lot of things bother me that don't bother other people but on the other hand i feel like I just want to have it since I have a hard time making friends I don't want to make up symptoms to go with the condition just to say I have something. its like i feel too normal to have AS but too "weird" to be NT... I never had trouble in school i got good grades for the most part until my first year of college. i can't remember too much of my childhood before 4th grade when i moved to a new school but i got picked on a lot. I just kind of blocked it out i guess i remember being picked on i can't remember being bothered by it too much, middle school I got picked on a little bit but most times people were nice to me for answers since i was in advanced classes. I joined cheerleading in high school to try to fit in and make friends and ended up having a love/hate relationship with the sport practice was draining trying to relate with the girls I always just wanted to be at home but it was my only social outlet. i didnt really have a social life outside of it. mostly slept in class so i wouldn't have to talk to people and also because the sound of chewing really bugs me. i can hear everything and the sound makes me anxious to the point that I get angry.(weird I know me and gum chewers don't get along lol) and i hate when people can't sit still it also makes me anxious. I mostly like to be at home reading or on the internet. I don't get out much I don't have any friends since I moved back home from college. to a school in my hometown ( got too overwhelmed being away from home) well anyway I took a lot of online tests and they all say that I more than likely have some form of autism but i know that's not enough. how can i go about getting a diagnosis or has anyone just accepted a self-diagnosis and forgot the official diagnosis. I was just hoping maybe someone could tell me if I'm over reacting or if i might have cause to research further. I know I can be paranoid sometimes so I wanted to hear from someone who actually has it and hopefully someone could relate or point me in the right direction of where to start.

once again thanks for reading all that just wanted to put down as much detail as possible. Not expecting a diagnosis or anything just looking for where to start in getting a diagnosis or self-diagnosing.

If you decide to seek an official diagnosis, your experiences and memories will factor into it, however I think getting a diagnosis would probably be more helpful if you sought it on the basis of your more recent observations. Not only have the definitions of the condition changed, but your life probably has too. I just think you'll find better advice if you go in with fewer preconceptions.

I understand. I tend to over think things though so I just like to have a lot of information on something before I bring it to the attention of others.

When you walk into a diagnostician's office, he/she will want to know what is interfering with your daily life right now. If your answer is not much, then I'd suggest you save your time and money and satisfy your curiosity with reading things written by adults on the spectrum. You can find a lot of enlightening ideas and tips for self-improvement this way.

If however, you have significant daily issues, seek medication for treatment, or seek other treatments (including but not limited to talk, speech, or occupational therapy) then absolutely go seek a formal diagnosis. A psychiatrist who specializes in ASD or a neuropsychologist are especially helpful for diagnosing.

You're far from the only one here who overthinks things. I don't know how much research you've done on the topic, but here are some books you might find useful:

The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Complete-Guid ... 1843106698

Be Different: My Adventures with Asperger's and My Advice for Fellow Aspergians, Misfits, Families, and Teachers
http://www.amazon.com/Be-Different-Adve ... 0307884821

I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults
http://www.amazon.com/Think-Might-Autis ... B00DAHF48I
(This is a good place to start: It gives an overview of the diagnostic criteria, a listing of common autistic traits, and some guidance on the diagnostic process.)

Pretending to be Normal: Living with Asperger's Syndrome
http://www.amazon.com/Pretending-Normal ... B0036FU8SK

As far as seeking a diagnosis goes, some are comfortable with self-identifying; others prefer the peace of mind and "official-ness" that comes with a formal diagnosis—and the access to support services it can grant you. A formal evaluation can be quite expensive, though, and it may only be useful if your autistic traits are negatively impacting your life. That said, if you can afford it, you might want to consult with a therapist and at least figure out if you're on the right track with your suspicions, and whether or not it makes sense to proceed with a formal diagnosis.


I often feel this way too, but then I mention it to friends and family members and they'll bring up all these quirks and things I do "wrong" in social situations, so it's possible you aren't totally aware of how others perceive you.

thanks! i guess i don't really need a formal diagnosis just looking for some sort of clarification on why i feel so different from everyone all the time. I always feel like i say the wrong thing or miss the point where i'm supposed to say something and come off awkward or mean. whereas others like my brother are immediately likable and seem to make friends really fast. I always felt something was different about me even before i ran across AS. I just feel guilty because I see some people get affected by this really hard in comparison to me and I feel like I'm just being a crybaby or something.

Hi! I just wanted to say you are definitely not alone. Reading your initial post, I felt like you were talking about me... even down to the fact that cheerleading was my only social outlet growing up! I just started looking in to AS as a legitimate possibility, but I've also been pretty "normal" other than similar issues that you mentioned. I also don't want to overreact, but I feel like AS makes everything make sense and it makes everything okay too. Every now and then I'll do something, and someone will look at me and be like "Dude I think you have Asperger's" but it was always a joke... except the more I read about it, the more I think I actually might... only it's mild to the point of people probably thinking I'm overreacting or making up excuses should I choose to tell anyone about it