I feel like a creep.

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So here is what happened:

I saw this cute girl on meetme, so I decided to message her. I was a little playful (been trying to do that more lately), and she responded well. Long story short, she is a month shy of 16, and she said she was 19 on her profile. I just feel weird. I know that Aspies do better with much older or younger mates, but when I saw 1998 on her fb, it made me feel weird. My nephew was born in 2000, so it just made me feel quite odd. But considering no one give me the time of day in the traditional mix (2 years either way), I figure this is the way to go. She seems pretty chill, and not as jaded. IDK. Any thoughts? (I am 19 btw, and 16 is legal where I am).

If it feels bad, don't do it.

You'll save yourself a world of hurt that way - we were given gut feels for a reason.

I don't mean it feels bad. She is very nice and beautiful, I just feel old lol.

It would've been worse if you were a 69 year old dude to be honest.

I wouldn't say that your age and her age is a creepy thing. Obviously you aren't creeped out by it from the sounds of things as you are trying to reason with the fact that you like this person. Maybe what has you feeling uneasy is the fact that she has lied about her age on a website. Don't worry about that either as a lot of teenage boys and girls have a habit of lying about their age to get things they want (dating older people, cigarettes and alcohol with use of fake ids, etc.). If you want to keep her in your life and get to know her and see where things go, there is nothing wrong with that. But let her open up on her own as well.

I don't think you have any reason to feel creepy. You met on neutral ground where you have equal power (or else you, as a male, have less). You aren't breaking any laws, and you seem like someone who has a concern for reason and justice.

If you decide to meet in person, however, you still need to follow the basic protocol for meeting someone IRL for the first time: tell a responsibile friend where you've gone and make firm arrangements to call them later and let them know that you're okay. Also, leave a note at your home with information about whom you're meeting and where.

Don't feel that you're a creep. She advertised that she was 19 when you first met, thus you were misled and acted on the information at hand. I am assuming that A) you need to be over 18 to use this thing and B) that you wouldn't have started talking to her if you knew she was 15-16.

If you feel that you shouldn't have a romantic relationship with her at this age, then just have a close friendship or something and then when she turns the age that you'd feel comfortable dating, then yeah...

Although this may all be moot: She may lose interest in you if you distance yourself.

I'd say just wing it, you didn't intentionally seek out young teenagers so there's nothing wrong with you. What she did was deception, judge her how you like.

Run far away from this entire situation. Also, report her profile before she meets some 45-year-old predator guy who doesn't have the same code of ethics you do.

You aren't creepy, but a 16 year old is a little girl. She is not old enough to know what a decent relationship should be like. I wouldn't date her if I were you. Most teenagers are very immature at this age and its not worth the drama. Also, she has already lied about her age, something to think about.

I would say It would depend on the maturity of the girl. For instance I'm 20 and I want to date a girl who is 17 but she might as well be 25 the way she acts. I didn't meet her on the internet I've known her for close to two years now. My best advice is to just get to know her, being friends can't hurt. The worst that can happen is you end up sleeping with her and her parents call the cops on you and you become a sex offender.

I was 20 when my ex and I started going out, and she was 16. So don't feel like a creep. What's important is if you gel.

I don't see why you care. When I was 16 the girls in my class all had 23 year old boyfriends.

The age difference isn't really a problem but she is quite young, that doesn't make you a creep since she lied about her age.

The question is whether you are comfortable with someone so young, everyone grows at different speeds so you could actually be well matched in terms of maturity, or she could be incredibly immature and a total nightmare. It depends if you want to risk it I guess?

I would run too. The age of consent may be 16, but there's a lot of other issues.

For example, ask for a nude picture of her, and you've just solicited child pornography.

I've been told I'm a 14 year old. Only problem is that the law saw 16 or 18 depending on the state

I have to pretend to be a religious extremist to keep people from thinking I'm a creep.