Would somebody accept my speech difficulty?

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I tend to have speech difficulties and my breathing isn't coordinated. It's a permanent disorder that's been haunting me. I also don't want to be dating a person who I wasn't attracted to physically. There were a lot of girls in high school who I thought were extremely attractive, yet they were normal, not-celebrities or the promiscuous type. Even then, am I doomed to dating somebody one or more steps below that, because of my speech difficulties? Will any girl who I consider attractive ever accept mine in a dating or relationship?

Don't argue that I'm shallow, because that's irrelevant, but I am just asking if any girl who happens to be above a certain level (not very specific looks wise, but still having many attractive physical features) will accept me or if I am just doomed to dating non-normal "ugly" girls.

A person's attractiveness does not necessarily reflect their personality. The most unattractive person you will ever meet might hold out for a hunk, and the supermodel might think the speech impediment is cute. Sorry, it's just not that simple as ruling out 7 and above or only going for 6 and below. You said you didn't want to date someone you find unattractive. what one finds attractive has no bearing on their physical body, it's entirely in the mind.

Of course there's someone out there you're attracted to that wouldn't mind your speech/breathing difficulties. There are 7 Billion plus people on this planet.. of course there's someone out there you're compatible with.

Also, you may be magnifying the negative impact your speech/breathing has. You might think it's a 100x bigger deal than some girl may. You have no idea whether she thinks it's a big deal or not, so don't assume. If you don't make a big deal out of it and can still convey some confidence in your speech and mannerisms, chances are much more likely they'll overlook it and see your better qualities. But if you dwell on it and come across like you're nervous and anxious and trying unsuccessfully to conceal your speech/breathing impediments then you'll draw attention to them, they'll be noticed, and likely be perceived negatively. If you want others to perceive you in a positive light, first you have to truly do the same for yourself & it has to come across in the way you convey yourself to others.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

There was a girl I was assigned to dance with in high-school who was hearing/speach impaired. Rather than be innovative I decided to be very hands off and demure. I got the impression she didn't like me and I was worried I might hurt her or something. After her I danced with a different girl. In each exercise we were given a tempo and told to choreograph a dance for it. For the second I used my strength and we did some fun acrobatics. Afterwords the first girl got mad at me and it turned out that she didn't dislike me, she in fact, was nervous around be Because she liked me. She was mad that I had treated her like she couldn't handle the situation. I empathized with her and seeing little to lose agreed to come up with a new dance outside of class. However I was then accused of wanting to take advantage of her by her very angry father (apparently she was... signing/talking ... about me) and it never ended up happening. TBH I don't know if it would have worked out but given my current situation I feel like I missed an opportunity. (If for nothing else then motivation to learn ASL)

I person I know have has earing aids due to his impaired earing. So his speech has a little difficulty coming out. Needless to say, he has a daughter whom he loves now.

With me, I talk fairly normal around people I am familiarized and comfortable with, but there have been many times with new people that makes me nervous where I stutter and stammer so bad people can hardly understand me. I have bad social anxiety issues that seems to have only gotten worse over the years, mostly due to my isolating my self and losing what social skills I did have.

I've gone through this my whole life and have been self-conscious about it but I can feel it breaking. Not my voice, the cloud of self-consciousness. I'm 20 years old, my voice has never deepened and matured, it will always sound like Rain Man karaoke singing to a Placebo song. But people respond more to the clarity than pitch, so the solution is to talk loud and proud. Enough perkiness and confidence to it gets people laughing with me more than anything else.

Yoga or a singing class can help with breathing, and probably your voice too, it's something I want to get around to for myself.

If you don't want to be with some girl who you find less than desirable, then don't. Everyone is better off that way.

And f**k high school. Make those deliberately difficult 4 years go by as fast as you can, don't remember anything from it, find out what you want to do in life as an adult and chase those dreams to the other end of the country or further. People in a different part of the country or abroad won't recognize your voice as weak, just foreign. Keep moving forward.

Sure, I knew a dude with a speech problem with a girlfriend. So long as you have confidence, respect woman and a good personality etc.

But if you're just pre-occupying yourself with superficial BS like ranking their level of attractiveness, then, definitely not, even if you talked normally

I have a wierd lisp. When I say the S sound it comes out like TV static. I avoid that sound around other folks. Just smile and look mysterious. That so works with guys. Kind of look toward your feet then look up at the girl and give a half smile on one side of your face without opening your mouth. You can go a long way by just saying "Mmmmmm hmmmmm" or Nnnnmmm nnnnnnnn"

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
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