My relationship between me and my mom...

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I have a problem, or I've had a problem for quite a time, actually.
So... I know I've got Asperger's syndrome... my psychiatrist told me, and they have used 7 months to diagnose me.
My parent's got to know that they believe i have asperger's but aren't my mom allowed to deny it if she thinks I haven't got it?...
I don't really like my mom that much, I mean.. she's caring and all that but when I get sad, or stressed she get's incredibly mad, and he hits me too. ( I do not live with my dad anymore, only with her).
So I've been.. tracking her computer for a while, and... I found out about her and her view on autism. SO first of all. the main reason she thought I did NOT have autism, is because there is this girl on a tv show, she has down's syndrome AND autism, my mom thought it was only autism all in one. When she found out she had downs too.. she were more mild on it.
Well ironically enough she had googeled "What's the difference between Asperger's syndrome and Downs syndrome"...
Well now I had a little talk with her... I have made this one friend at my new school, I know her life is kinda bad and such, and she were awake untill 4 AM this morning, and I mean there was something wrong and I asked her.. "are you OK?". and so she said "I suppose...".
I told my mom that I didn't know how to help but I knew there was something wrong.
Then suddenly.. my mom asked me about how I felt about them trying to diagnose me with asperger's... And I said that I'm fine with it but it would be better if they would use their time to help me sort things out at school and my past..
and she said why she didn't believe why I had autism. "because I care about people, and I'm kind, and when I were younger I actually had friends(before school).
And all the time I get sad, or super stressed, she get's super mad.. I don't know anything anymore I don't wanna stay with her I need help before it's to late, I went from pure A's in math's to B's, I can not concentrate and I've been skipping so many classes this year and my mom doesn't even know cause she doesn't really care...

What do I do... I feel so lost, I've never ever had anything and everything I've had is just going down.. I've lost so many and so much I don't have anything I don't have any reasons anymore for anything.. I probably won't succeed in nothing.

Sounds like your mother is having trouble understanding exactly what Asperger's Syndrome is/accepting how you are. As much as she wants to believe you are completely normal, you aren't. She will learn to accept you as you are hopefully one day. It just takes a bit of time. She obviously cares about you, otherwise she would just completely ignore you, rather than trying to address the problem. Sometimes these things can be as hard on your family member too. You'd be surprised the amount of people who are quite aware of Asperger's syndrome, and how accepting/understanding they can be.
And on the part about empathy/caring for others. Most of us don't lack empathy, just the ability to express it normally. I find myself overwhelmed at times with feelings of empathy for others, but still have difficulty in expressing it.