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DevilKisses
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07 Jan 2014, 12:27 am

I just don't understand.


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07 Jan 2014, 12:28 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand.


Because we are people? :roll:

It's not like we kill people or anything.



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07 Jan 2014, 12:38 am

my NT husband married aspie me because I'm intelligent and have a big heart, according to him. we also have similar interests.



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07 Jan 2014, 12:54 am

At a guess they have things in common and get along well. Thing is even though we are aspie doesn't mean we have nothing to offer people.


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07 Jan 2014, 12:59 am

Because they like them and find them attractive?


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07 Jan 2014, 1:38 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand.


What's wrong with that? Do you think NTs shouldn't date aspies?


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07 Jan 2014, 1:54 am

League_Girl wrote:
DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand.


What's wrong with that? Do you think NTs shouldn't date aspies?

I never said that they shouldn't. I just don't understand what they find attractive about Aspies. I think NTs are way more attractive than Aspies when in comes to personality. I don't understand why they would put up with Aspies.


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07 Jan 2014, 1:54 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand.

Because no other NTs would date them.



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07 Jan 2014, 1:58 am

DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand what they find attractive about Aspies. I think NTs are way more attractive than Aspies when in comes to personality. I don't understand why they would put up with Aspies.

Okay, well NTs have liked that I'm honest, unpretentious, rational, and that I know myself really well. There's a few reasons to start you off. I think a lot of aspies would share those traits.



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07 Jan 2014, 2:50 am

The stereotype society has of us in the spectrum is
romantically speaking very unappealing. However, I question
the very narrow definition we have of autism. I know many
people in the spectrum who are artistic, highly refined
beautifully eccentric, deep, passionate, eloquent.........
I could go on and on.


Perhaps when Hollywood starts portraying characters in
the spectrum which truly represent the diversity of most
of us, maybe that might play a part in enlightening society
that although we might be socially challenged, we can
dance beautifully through this life.

Many of my NT friends would die for a date with Daryl Hannah.

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07 Jan 2014, 3:00 am

Because a number of people on the spectrum aren't bad enough off that you can tell they're on the spectrum.



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07 Jan 2014, 4:20 am

Personality... I instantly liked the honesty, his approach, the outlook on life, his moral code, his brain, the drive to succeed in life, sense of humor, the big heart. I can go on....
We share a lot of common values and are both open minded, It's not so much about putting up with one another; he is who he is, and I am who I am. :D :D :D :D



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07 Jan 2014, 8:40 am

My husband and I share many of the same interests. We have a similar sense of humor. We enjoy each other's company. He thinks some of my quirks are cute.

I dunno, why do NTs date each other?



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07 Jan 2014, 9:11 am

Because they love them.


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07 Jan 2014, 10:29 am

DevilKisses wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
DevilKisses wrote:
I just don't understand.


What's wrong with that? Do you think NTs shouldn't date aspies?

I never said that they shouldn't. I just don't understand what they find attractive about Aspies. I think NTs are way more attractive than Aspies when in comes to personality. I don't understand why they would put up with Aspies.

Self-hating much?



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07 Jan 2014, 11:07 am

It seems to really depend. When I was in my teens and early twenties, the NTs I dated tended to do one of several things: value my openness, analytic capabilities, nerdiness and willingness to hang out or they viewed me as an improvement project (they would try to 'teach' me to be more stylish and/or normal over the course of the relationship.)

I can't help but wonder if it's a little of both.


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