what causes me to be 'jangled' when interacting in a group

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Here is an idea that I have come up with that I want to run it by you. I understand social cues very well I have been studying them all my life. What actually causes me the most stress being in social situations is the fact that neurotypical people lie to each other constantly. Their mouths say one thing and their body language another. (Generally the body gives the truer version). What I feel oppressed by is the sheer weight of lies that can fill a room. Does anyone else feel like this?

I think you must pay more attention than I do. I do notice when people are being two faced though.

Is that the same sort of thing?

I have a heck of a hard time telling 'normal' social hypocrisy, the polite lies, from the mean-spirited kind.

And I want to give people the benefit of the doubt unless I'm like 95% sure, or let's say 80%. And I still want to be decent and matter-of-fact in how I distance myself.

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By the way, Welcome to WrongPlanet!

I over compensate and get too cynical. NT's tell me I am too negative. While sometimes they may also say my observation or opinion is wrong more often then not I am just too negative.