I just figured out that I'm Lesbian

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I think that I might be lesbian, I say "I think I might" because I have never been in any kind of romantic relationship before. I've never even kissed anyone, so how can I know for sure? I know that I have a crush on a female friend(I told her about my crush, she didn't freak out but she is straight so we're still just friends), I know that lately the idea of being with a guy just isn't appealing to me, and I know that the idea of being with a girl does appeal to me.

When I told all of this to my Mom a few days ago she told me she suspected this for a while now, as I've always dressed and acted androgynous. She didn't seem to mind, so I thought everything was great.

Then I realized that I live in a rural, mostly Conservative/Christian community, and it hit me how this is probably one of the worst places I could be while figuring this out. I already felt completely alone and terrible before all this, now I feel even worse because I know I'll probably never find anyone around here, and if I do we'd have to deal with the local ignorant rednecks.

Lately I've been staying in bed all day, surfing the web and feeling sad. I know this won't help but I don't know what my next step should be...

I'm glad everything is good with your mom.

Your profile says you are 17? If you are planning on going to college, all but the most conservative schools should have an LGBTQ group (if you are looking at colleges now, you might look the schools' LGBTQ group online). Otherwise, if you aren't going to college, you might consider moving to a larger town after you graduate.

In the meantime, you can look up websites for LGBTQ youth that have message boards. Also, I wouldn't completely despair about finding someone in your community. This past summer I worked at girl scout camp in a rural/conservative/christian region, and I think maybe 1/3 of the staff (who were mostly 17-22 years old) were queer.

Thanks for telling me this, it's good to know that I'm not as alone in all this as I thought I was.

I don't think that I'll be going to collage, but eventually I'll start volunteer work at the library, maybe I'll find somebody there?

Well, if you are, welcome to the club.

Live life. work hard. Save money. Plan on moving to a big city. Problem solved.

Hei there, I know a bit what you're going through ...
it's nice that your mom agrees to it...
I think Fossil gave some good advice...
Don't expect to find anyone very soon and I suggest you be careful since you say you're in a more conservative area, not all the people around you might have the same attitude as your mother
I have the same issue too

maybe we'll both find eventually the truth

A library will have a lot of people, so it's a good place to make new friends. I don't know how easy it will be to connect with another woman who likes women, though, since no one's exactly going to wear it on their sleeves in a very conservative town.

As you get older you'll have more money and mobility, making it easier to travel out of town to more open-minded places. You might even find it's a good idea to move. It's not much, but it's a hope.

I realized I am a lesbian seventeen months ago. You most certainly are not alone!
I recommend that you and your mother look up GirlfriendsTV on youtube. Arielle Scarcella is a very open lesbian who runs the channel and is available to answer questions and provide support. It is a safe community for LGBT people who have not found a community yet and full of very factual videos discussing all sorts of issues. There is nothing inappropriate about it though I haven't seen anything mentioned about Autism and Homosexuality yet. I hope this helps you!

ive been gay since i was 5 (lesbian) go for it, be happy in life trust me because my family are full of heavy catholics but doesnt mean im gonna stop myself from being myself, cheers and hope everythin gets better for u!

I live and went to a small liberal arts college in the obsessively liberal East Coast surrounded by millions.

My GF went to college in a Mormon-ville state school in the middle of nowhere.

Guess which place had more LGBT social events/bars, etc.?

Be smart and be safe in whatever choices you make. You a have a lifetime ahead of you. And, odds are you will be friends with at least 2 of your exes in 30 years so choose wisely.