Social Anxiety or ASD? Childhood?

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I am very anxious about my upcoming assessment, so please bare with me while I ask a few questions. I am starting to second guess if I have ASD or if I am just anxious by nature. I don't remember much of my child hood at all. I can think of clear symptoms that point to Aspergers/Autism after I was about 12/13 but not much from before then and I was hoping that you could give some insight.

Does these sound like SAD or ASD? Or both?

-described as "standoffish" and "extremely shy" by parents. Didn't open up to anyone but brother for a long time.
-only wanted to talk to and play with my brother when very younger.
-walked and talked on time.
-sensory issues with clothing materials. I refused to wear jeans until I was 12 or so. I preferred stretch pants and t shirts.
-I got attached to certain articles of clothing, mostly jackets and sweatshirts, and want to wear them constantly, even when it was hot.
-I loved dolls and animals and babies (and still do!)
-I have always enjoyed sorting things by sameness (color, shape, size)
-I was a very picky eater. I liked to eat the same things. I refused to eat the cereal at school and insisted on bringing my own from home.
-I liked to count cars driving by, floor tiles when walking, etc.
-I liked to spin around the pole in our basement but not obsessively.
-always felt like an outsider and I was jealous that my siblings had friends and opportunities I didn't from a very young age. I always felt different.
-I have always felt connected to animals, and everyone joked I would be a vet when I grew up.
-I drank out of a bottle for a long time and insisted on having a bottle of chocolate milk everyday after kindergarten.
-Hated changed and needed stability or got really upset. My parents were good about providing stability when I was young so this wasn't much of an issue.
-I got headaches a lot and had stomach issues.
-I had very few friends. I remember having a best friend in kindergarten but none after that until 5th grade.
-I have always felt more like a boy or like some combination of a boy and girl.

Can you relate to any of this or does any of this sound like autism?

Are there any specific questions I should ask my family members to get more information that would be helpful for a diagnosis?

Again, sorry for the question, I know you get tons of these here but I have myself worked up that I am wasting my time and money on the assessment and that I just have anxiety. My family is sick of talking about it with me, so are no help.

Can relate very well to most of those - sounds like autism to me.

Would suggest getting hold of any existing school records and childhood doctors reports.
Lots of times school records have notes by teachers regarding behavior like "keeps to self" etc.

the thing is, your doctor is going to say you have social anxiety,

all you have to do, is find out which came first

are you anxious because you dont know what to do in a social situation?

or do you not know what to do ONLY in social Situations? (by that i mean do you understand social rules when calm, but then forget them when anxious)

I get anxious before and after social situations, not generally when I am in them (although in the past I have, specifically in college and high school). I just don't know what to do or say when I am in conversations, especially ones where I don't know or care about the topic or its not specific.

I even have a hard time with just texting or emailing people because I don't know how to respond to things people say to me, even simple things. I always have to ask my sister how to respond. I don't feel anxious at all in most of these situations.

My family tells me that I only want to talk about what I want to talk about and I always turn the conversation back to me. I have noticed I talk about myself a lot but thats how I relate to people, it doesn't feel self centered to me.

I do have social anxiety but I don't really remember being anxious socially until I was a little older. Can someone have social anxiety at 2 or 3? Or is being "standoffish and extremely shy" at those ages, given my other symptoms, more likely a sign of autism?