Alyoshka wrote:
I have and they assume I should already know. They claim I don't put anyone's emotions in consideration. I don't understand other people and their emotions, so it is a bit difficult for me to comprehend where I went wrong with them.
When they said, "be nice", they said, "just treat others how you want to be treated." I'm confused because I thought I have been doing that the whole time, but apprently, I have not, according to them.
That is so common for people on the spectrum. We treat others like they are similar to ourselves, but they have a totally different perception of how they want to be treated.
My sister likes to be left alone when she is upset about something, whereas another person would want a sympathetic ear. this leads to my sister walking away from someone who is upset, but they think she doesn't care about them, however she leaves them alone because she cares about them. It's just miscommunication.
People do just assume that we should know the rules, but how can we if no one tells us what they are? It is frustrating when you really are trying to treat others with respect, but they can't see it.
Can you think of any specific examples of when you've been told this? What were the circumstances? If we know a little more we might be able to offer some advice.