Help me make a friend!! !

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I want to have friends, maybe even a girlfriend.

I have had a hard time all my life making friends. One reason is that I'm nervous meeting new people. I once had a girl who used me for a shopping spree and a coworker who rejected me. They weren't nice to me. Another reason is that I have a hard time expressing myself.

I have a learning disability, including dyslexia, but I don't know much more than that.

I live Bronx, NY and I want to have new friends either in New York City or online. Please help!

A traumatic experience like that is always hard to recover from. I have a lot more success in building online friends and these friendships carry on to my real life when I do meet them in person. My tip to you is- If you are not sure of a person, either bring someone to meet with him/her, or you can see if he/she knows somebody that you know pretty well. If neither works, I would say, identify events that not much can probably go wrong that you can attend to.

For me, I am an occupational therapist by trade. However, I am now getting involved in the autism community more. My rule of thumb of these meetings is- Me and the other person must build a decent rapport online first, or that person must mention somebody I know pretty well if that person wants to meet up with me. Then, we will arrange a meet up together during the time we go to an event together. I used to be really nervous... but now I just be myself. In fact, the people I meet (mostly girls), are really interested to know me... seeing me as a competent colleague and giving them a thing or two more that they wouldn't have learned from their textbooks... or in the autism community sense, it will be a working partner for what they are doing (since I do have my license even though I am autistic).