I'd like to know my female coworker better.

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Facts about me for reference.
-Aspie
-20 Years Old
-Male
-6'6"
-300lbs that looks like 200lbs to people.
-Can be pretty socially awkward.

I work at Wegmans in the dairy department. Been here over a year now. There's this girl in another department. I sadly do not know too, much about her, other than her name. Me learning it is a success story of mine from yesterday.
Like I said, I can be pretty socially awkward, so remember that. I was walking a runner full of milk crates to the convenience case (where the lazy people buy milk next to self-checkout) and I noticed how she and another co-worker were picking up some broken stuff on the floor nearbye. I was going to help anyway, but the issue was staying cool about it afterwards. Which I did. I also was smooth with getting her name. (I already knew it because I noticed it on her name tag a while ago, but didn't want to be creepy)

AWW YEEAAAHHHH!! !! Me-1. Anxiety-0

Later at the lunch room, I was talking to another coworker about Minesweeper ( I learned that the number indicates how many mines within one block of the box you clicked). I noticed her walk in and said hello, to which she responded nicely. I let her be so she could eat her lunch. I'm learning my limits. Then sadly, I had to get back to work.
Either way, I'd like to get to know her a bit better, but do not want to come on too strong at all. HELP ME!! !!

Step one: Find out if she's available.

Step two: Find out if she's interested in you.

Don't fish off the company pier

I won't pretend to know what I am talking about but I have somewhat of an Idea.

Just talk to her. Ask her a simple question like how her day has been (Girls LOVEEEE knowing you care) but don't rely on this every time as it can get boring and repetitive. If she reply's with "How was your day" tell her about it and then if something comes to mind that she might like tell/ ask her about it, or if she has earrings, or dyed hair (Either it could be an unnatural color or her roots could be a different color than the rest of her hair) ask her about them, who got them for her or why she dyed her hair, the same goes for any tattoos. If she is wearing a necklace and it is heart shaped this can be a bad sign, BUT doesn't have to be. Girls generally don't buy them self heart shaped jewelry, but it could be from either an EX. or from a family member, you don't really have any way to know.

When you tell her about your day do not, I repeat DO NOT, blab about yourself none stop, girls and guys both find this to be a major turn off and will likely RUN for the hills. Ask her different questions such as:

What music does she listen to.
Who her favorite band is.
favorite song.
Any hobbies.
Favorite show.

If you find her to be attractive in anyway shape or form (This doesn't have to be physical by any means) compliment her. Say she has nice hair, beautiful eyes/ smile. HOWEVER DO NOT!! Say anything about her body I.E. don't tell her she has a nice butt or anything sexual (YET) this could scare her ff and she could report you to her superior and you could get in trouble.

Once you have become friends with her ask her for her number (If she has one). If she gives it to you this can be a good sign, but isn't 100%. She may like you and want you to text or call her so she can get to know you more, but if she TAKES your number this (If she doesn't text or call you within about a week) could mean she is not interested in you past a friend (Having girls as friends is not a bad thing) (More on that later). If when you two are talking she only asks you about work related things then chances are either she isn't interested in you past friends, OR (BIG OR) she doesn't know you are interested in her.

When texting her you don't want to be the one to start every conversation, if you are then this means she may again not be interested. You would want a 50/50 on each side. She starts half the conversations and you start half the conversations.

In the event that she wants to be "just friends" you (if you have feelings for her) will feel a bit down about it. Granted this has and still does happen to me, the best thing to do is simply move on. Wallowing in self pity will not help at all.

There is an upside to having her as a friend, a rather good upside.

You will learn how to talk to girls. I was best friends with a girl for over a year and I learned pretty much everything I know about talking to girls from her.

There is so much more that I can tell you. And if you would like me to I can. I don't want to flood you with information and I also have to go now :p

Good luck to you I hope all goes well for you

See earlier post about "fishing off the company pier". These days you need to tread very carefully because of sexual harassment claims.

Don't date co-workers. It isn't good for your professional life.

Believe me, I know.

Or don't dip your pen in the company ink. Trust me, it never works out well. I believe work and personal lives should be separate. You don't want your two worlds to collide because if they do, they can blow up.