I hate being called by my name

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For some reason I hate it when people call me by my name. It just makes me cringe inside. I don't hate my name, I just hate when people call me by my name. I tried another name and I cringed as well.

Are the people who tend to call you by name only doing it when they need something from you or have something negative/uncomfortable to say to you?

I have that a lot!! Not all the time, and not with everyone, but I definitely cringe and have cringed throughout my life when my name is used by some people. Because, some people manage to make it sound like a bad thing, when you're about to get into trouble, or when someone is about to criticize you.

I'm not in touch with any living member of my family anymore, but when I was, I had an elder sister who ALWAYS used my name to emphasize something negative or condescending she was saying to me.

When she was trying to persuade me that an opinion I'd just voiced was, in here eyes, crap, she would say (I'll use my screen name here) -- "But BIRD, don't you see though, that's not really right is it, BIRD? It won't really work that way, BIRD, will it....BIRD?" I started to feel like my own name was a dirty word or an insult.

I too actually like my name, but people like my mean sister used it too much in negative speech. Funny, when she had something nice to say she left my name out of the sentence...


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Double post.

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Don't have much advice to give, but when you become more sure of yourself and confident in your decisions and abilities, the fear goes away.

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You probably associate people saying you name with negativity following it. Come to think of it, whenever someone makes a point to include your name in a sentence it's usually for some serious thing, like criticism, whereas if it's not serious a "hey, I need so and so..." suffices. Yeah, I get what you mean.

I hate it when people call me by my name too. In fact I was thinking of making a thread here about it and you beat me to it. I cringe when I hear my name spoken, and I cringe when I see people use my screen name online.

It doesn't have to do with expecting to hear anything negative to follow. I just don't like it. It's hard to explain why. It's because the person wants to talk to ME in particular. It's like they are making a demand on my attention.

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I think it is because we can't avoid it when we are directly called out. As a child I even hated hearing myself say it. It's not that bad now. I made a career out of people needing me to fix their crap so I get called on all the time. It sux and I hate my job but I have a wife and kids to feed so oh well I guess.

I just hate how some people pronounce it.

A name is more specific than "Hey!" or "Human".

Your not alone.

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I think it is because we can't avoid it when we are directly called out. As a child I even hated hearing myself say it. It's not that bad now. I made a career out of people needing me to fix their crap so I get called on all the time. It sux and I hate my job but I have a wife and kids to feed so oh well I guess.

It bothers me too. I never say someone's name unless I need to get their attention or in a greeting; it just feels weird. It's not just my name though, I don't like when people use other people's names excessively either.

A get a bit of a shock from it unless the people know me well. When I call someone by their name it means I'm comfortable enough around them to say it. It's like I want them to know that I know them and call them a friend.

Besides that it I will just call out someone's name to get their attention.

I think it does stem from a childhood of having my name bellowed out by very angry parents, teachers and parents of other children.

The abbreviation of my name is acceptable when being addressed by persons other than my family.

Yeah me too. I don't like to say the names of other people either. I don't like the way it feels. I have a hard time remembering names so if it's someone I don't know very well I'm hesitant that I will get it wrong anyway.

I'm a verb not a noun dammit!