I don't want to be saved for marriage!!

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I heard that bad boys get lots of dates and everyone else is saved for marriage. I don't want to marry! I want a nice string of relationships. But I don't want to be cast aside until girls start sagging (Hey, the truth hurts). I want to have FUN. I want to be the PARTY not the after-party. Is there a way that I can acquire some bad boy traits without being mean? I want to have fun now, but I don't want to be disrespectful. How do I bend with a bad boy image so that I can have the fun I want without changing myself dramatically?

Stop listening to Justin Bieber music as first step.

Don't TRY to be anything other than you, you will end up looking super foolish. Honestly.
Everyone is interesting just the way they are, the more you try to be something your not the more difficult it becomes for someone to get to know YOU.
Try to have faith that you are good enough as you are, see the funny side of your flaws and take pride in your strengths. Work on being the best you you can be.

You. Are. Six. Teen.

Don't worry about trying to be a bad boy. Be yourself. Just don't be obnoxious. That's the best way I can put it. There is no magic formula for getting women, and not all females are attracted to the same types of people.

There is only a grain of truth to this, that some people focus exclusively on casual sex and figure they'll "settle down" later. Because they're only focused on getting as much sex as possible, they often target the best-looking and most sexually-available.

Many people don't do this. Don't believe everything you read on the Internet.

I wouldn't date someone who was just giving quieter, plainer woman a chance after they'd had their fill of chasing tail, figuring it was about time to give it up for someone to cook them dinner, rub out the kinks in their back, and give them love. I wouldn't expect men to do so for women, either.

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I wouldn't date someone who was trying to get us before we "spoiled" too.

What are you talking about? You aren't making any sense. What has getting married got to do with this?

Clearly you are trying to be someone you not, and being an omega male douche isn't going to help you. I assume you're not an alpha male.

Three things you should know..

One, NOBODY saves themselves for marriage except mormons anymore. That's a super old tradition.

Two, if you want to acquire "bad boy" traits or whatever, you're not going to. Like everyone and their mother said, don't try to be someone you're not, everyone knows when you're not being yourself, and it's a waste of time. Don't try too hard to be too "good" or "bad" don't drown someone in gifts and compliments, don't pretend to like things you don't to impress someone, don't agree with her on everything to pretend to be compatible, don't say yes to everything she wants you to do. The old phrase "Just be yourself" is really the best thing you can do, and be good at it, too.

And last, you post like the only goal or important thing from relationships is sex. Drop that approach to relationships and fast.

I think he just wants to be a "player" and "cool".

He'll grow out of it. But it's a lot nicer being honest and saying it isn't going to happen than pretend there's some way he can get girls to have sex with him.

Ah, to be 16 again...

Wherever he got this silly idea that it's all a party then it's marriage, I have no idea. But they need a slap over the face. What a stupid idea.

I agree, but honestly, I think that would not do much of a change actually. ^^ At least, at that age, people have an excuse for their behavior. I am already counting the days, until my one will get into puberty. (Do you think a ship container full of Xanax will be sufficiently, to help me get through that time?)

Ok boy, I am gonna take you a bit more seriously.

What's your current lifestyle is like now?

What are your outings/activities?

How many friends you have?

How well groomed you are?

How do you look like?

If you are different or you don't blend in, find some subcultures that may be more accepting towards you.

Just be yourself, unassuming, naive, sweet, caring if that's who you are but don't let others push you over, find that balance between the two. There are people who find our Autistic nature to be endearing if they are willing to give us a chance and most women will be glad they have finally found someone who is different or nicer than other men.

There are women out there that like introverted, sensitive and androgynous men like us but first you have to embrace and build value for yourself instead of pretending to be something you aren't.

I concur with the advice to be yourself and not fake who you are. When I was having difficulty in school as a teenager (with bullies and lack of female attention), I was given the advice to act tough and pretend to be like one of the bullies. Let's just say that did not go over well: it was like a 16-18 year old who never played football thinking he is good enough to play in the NFL and taunting everyone along with way. It just made the bullying ten times worse and the girls all wanted nothing to do with the "gay" boy in school.