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Hello! I was diagnosed yesterday with AS. I am a 25 year old female. I have lead my life thinking of myself as a nervous slacker. I am honestly quite relieved with the diagnosis. I have been writing myself off as lazy and overwhelmingly anxious for a long time now. I never could focus on school because of my emotional and physical difficulties. I have ended up in a career that is totally wrong for me and I need to start working toward something for fitting for myself. I am interested in learning more about AS and other people like me. I am married to a 27 y/o male who was just diagnosed with AS. I am curious about other couples and how they accommodate each other.

Hi, Cloud13! I can fully empathise (ironically enough) with you, in regards to previously considering yourself lazy and the amount of anxiety and self-doubt that such feelings can cause. What's it like being in an aspie/aspie relationship?

It is quite interesting! My husband is so say it nicely - very blunt. I am very sensitive but I do have a horrible short term memory so once he chokes out a "sorry" I am quick to forgive because I generally cannot remember why I was upset in the first place. So pretty good I guess lol! Also we get overwhelmed generally at the same time in public places so we are both used to making quick exits that others may not understand. Thanks for your reply!

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Welcome

Welcome to WP.
As far as couples helping each other, the Missus has to be patient with me as far as remembering things. I forget things a lot. For me, I'm patient with her when she gets into a creative mood and that's all she can concentrate on. We've been married for 23 years, so it is possible for two ASpies to carry on.

Welcome!

Your story reminds me (and I am sure, a lot of aspies too) my own story.
I thought for a while that I was just an overwhelmingly anxious. But I tried to survive with that, and I am here "some" years later, so it means that it worked

Thank you for sharing!
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Welcome to WP.

Welcome

So you were both diagnosed recently? It must be nice to know someone who is going through what you are

I thought I was just overly anxious too before I learned about ASD
Then suddenly my whole life started to make sense and I cried a lot mainly just from being able to understand why I'm the person I am.

I broke down in tears the day I was officially diagnosed as well because I really didn't want to be autistic

To make it all worse I was splitting up from my wife and the only person I've ever been in a relationship in my life.
It was stuff she said about me that lead to me finding out about autism.

She said if she would have known earlier we could have worked through it but now it's to late

I've been living alone for the last year and find it really difficult.
my ex wife helped me get everything with my life sorted and let me live with her until I found my own place though.

without her help I don't think I could have coped with the change.