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BeggingTurtle
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03 Apr 2014, 9:10 pm

The calender has been nearing my breakup with my girlfriend last year and I go to school every day and find myself really depressed because girls are just way too flirtatious and promiscuous and guys are idiots who waste their time with sexual innuendo.

Not that I'm being negative towards either gender, but I wish if this is true, my girlfriend or boyfriend won't be like this. And so far, I've come very far from discovering someone like this lately.


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03 Apr 2014, 10:08 pm

Girls are flirtatious to be: playful, because they like the person they are flirting with, want to feel desired, or because they don't know what they want.

Guys are flirtatious with the use of innuendo simply because they want to get laid, or because they believe that some girl that randomly flirted with them likes them.

It may be rare that you find someone exactly the way you want them. But how would you like to have fun until the day comes where you know you have met the girl you want? I know you're young, but do you have any goals you would like to achieve? Personal things you would like to do?


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03 Apr 2014, 10:31 pm

aspiemike wrote:
Girls are flirtatious to be: playful, because they like the person they are flirting with, want to feel desired, or because they don't know what they want.

Guys are flirtatious with the use of innuendo simply because they want to get laid, or because they believe that some girl that randomly flirted with them likes them.

It may be rare that you find someone exactly the way you want them. But how would you like to have fun until the day comes where you know you have met the girl you want? I know you're young, but do you have any goals you would like to achieve? Personal things you would like to do?


True that. Immerse yourself in what you like and want to do. Use the time to improve upon yourself. Find your edge.



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04 Apr 2014, 5:49 am

BeggingTurtle wrote:
The calender has been nearing my breakup with my girlfriend last year and I go to school every day and find myself really depressed because girls are just way too flirtatious and promiscuous and guys are idiots who waste their time with sexual innuendo.

Not that I'm being negative towards either gender, but I wish if this is true, my girlfriend or boyfriend won't be like this. And so far, I've come very far from discovering someone like this lately.


You're 16. And, noteworthy, it really doesn't get much better until you're in your late 20s. I wouldn't expect much more while you're 16, like 2% of people marry their high school sweetheart. probably less.


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04 Apr 2014, 7:28 am

886 wrote:
You're 16. And, noteworthy, it really doesn't get much better until you're in your late 20s. I wouldn't expect much more while you're 16, like 2% of people marry their high school sweetheart. probably less.


And then they get divorced



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04 Apr 2014, 7:30 am

You just have to be happy. If you are, everything else will fall into place.Life is sad, not lose too much yesterday, but immersed in yesterday's sorrow, forget the way.Learn bearish some things, is their best protection. In life, there are always accidentaly across the warmth and hope, life and growth in nature



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04 Apr 2014, 11:15 am

I guess.


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04 Apr 2014, 11:18 am

So what exactly are you looking for?



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04 Apr 2014, 11:57 am

I remember being both jealous and feeling pity at the same time for all the 'coupled' kids in school. I felt jealous because they seemed to get girlfriends effortlessly, but pitied them because they were so darn delusional at that age. I remember of all the hundreds of 'X and Y in love forever' I saw in school one only one I thought had a chance of making it to a marriage. I was right!