Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends

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You know when you go on facebook or look up old people you knew from elementary school that you may have been kind of friends with and actually felt comfortable with? When you look at these peoples pictures ect today, do you often feel like their social skills, job status, and other abilities are so superior to the areas you struggle with, that they almost look intimidating to you know. In other words, if you were to meet these people today, would you actually feel uncomfortable or intimidated if you were forced to hang out with them today? It's kind of a strange and somewhat unpleasant feeling but when I look at a lot of these people, I definitely feel that way.

Yes, it's actually embarassing as some of these people are facebook friends (though we never talk). I am single, make $11/hr, live at home, usually people don't even like my statuses. I would be so ashamed to admit if anything, I seem worse off than I used to. Facebook is just a place to remind me of how much of a loser I am.

I agree with what you're talking about completely. It's so frustrating when other people try to convince you that most people your age don't actually have active social lives. I learned via my news feed on New Years that like 6 old friends of mine from the same group were all at the same huge party together that one of them hosted like 4 blocks from my house. Give me a break.

Last edited by Widget on 14 Apr 2014, 11:09 pm, edited 4 times in total.

Yea, add another to the list. Total agreement here as well

I give not a thought to the people I knew a long time ago. no sense worrying about 'em because they are not a part of my life.

I'm arrogant enough not to give a s**t what they think of me.
I nver did before, so what should I start now?

they are on their life track, and I am on mine, and never the twain shall meet.

Solution: don't use Facebook, it's merely a tool for NT's to attempt to 1-up each other. I've never used social media and I have to believe my sense of self-esteem and general mental health is better for it.

but the various aspie forums on FB are ok.

It used to make me jealous when I would see others wearing wedding gowns or see them start having families.

Exactly! Why put yourself through all that? Facebook is not reality, it's a social game where the main point is to make your friends jealous of some vanity. In a sense it's the post-modern apex of consumerism-- the need to keep up with the Jones' not just in physical objects, but now also in relationships, events, and of course the all mighty friend count.

This thread seems to have gone off track to be about Facebook. As pertains to the original topic, I totally agree. I would have a hard time meeting up with them, whether they be from public school, university, or worst of all high school. It is not so much what they would think of me, but how it would make me feel about myself.

I haven't looked them up on there, so I can't speak for the FB thing. I intentionally don't look them up.
I dread running into them IRL for the same reason.
For that reason I also avoid class reunions.

it is already decades too late for me to attend my class reunion and it it is just as well.

I don't know if I'd feel intimated if I had to hang out with them. My ten year reunion is next year and I will go to it but I do feel a little behind seeing people who are constantly doing things socially, have steady romantic relationships, or are traveling to exotic places because I'm 27 and many of these people have established jobs and their own places to live while I am still living at home looking for something better than entry level or internship position. So yeah I do feel this. It doesn't really bother me much but it does a little in the sense that I do wish I had the life that people I know have though I'm no recluse either.

I don't want to be around anybody. I am through.