What am I doing here?

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I think I need help. I have become quite bored with things I used to do. I am really wanting friends and perhaps a relationship or something before I get any older. It would be nice to have those things at least once. I was hoping maybe I would get some friends at this new job I got. But no it is basically the same. I am different and avoided. But I really just need to get out of the house. But when ever I do something alone I just get this massive amount of loneliness and anxiety due to it and thus it is easier to just be inside doing alone activities. it is a Catch-22.

what should I do... I really don't know. I never learned how to live.

How to live your life is relative to each person. I am usually fine hibernating myself, but then I get on weird tears when I want the constant adrenaline rush. It's frustrating.

That is a good question. Making friends on the job is not a good idea. Most people that work together and click together are a set of gossips. I was blessed to make friends with one person at work after dealing with a lot of lies and gossip from another person who pretended to be my friend when they were not.

If you want to make friends a few suggestions
1. Look up some adult Asperger Support groups
2. Sign into meet up.com and look for some areas that you are interested in
3. If you are an alumni at a college in your area then you might want to see about joining some clubs.

I don't make friends with everyone but I just go around and talk to different people.

but how do I know who to talk to and what about? I know one on really cares about stuff I know and do.

I second the suggestion to look for ASD-centric groups. There is much less pressure to act in neurotypical ways in these groups. It looks like you are looking for acceptance among people, and the best way to do that is to find others who have similar tendencies to you. Also, if you want to socialize with NTs, you will have to learn the social skills that they approve of, which can often take a lot of work and is something I don't recommend for everyone with ASD.

What are your interests? There has got to be people out there who care about the same things that you do.