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Rafael3122
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26 Apr 2014, 12:12 am

I'm bisexual are there other bi/gay out there. Hows has your dating experience been?



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26 Apr 2014, 12:42 am

[Moved from Random Discussion to LGBT Discussion]

Try this forum... :wink:


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26 Apr 2014, 8:56 am

hello


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26 Apr 2014, 9:12 am

I was in a relationship for about 12 years. I dated a lot after that, but found that after the initial limerance went away I preferred being by myself.



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26 Apr 2014, 1:50 pm

Hi Adam Hows your weekend been so far?


Hi Marky Wow 12 years is a long time the longest relationship Ive been was 6 months. And I also like being on my own, I haven't met anyone that I would want to date any advice?



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04 May 2014, 6:58 pm

I am a gay man and I must say dating for me is going through a bunch of doors in my face. Almost two opened for me and then they slammed my face. I would like a boyfriend on the spectrum like me.



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05 May 2014, 2:40 am

I'm a gay man. My relationship status is single I'm more into NSA but I would like to have a boyfriend who is also an aspie.



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05 May 2014, 3:02 pm

Thanks Everyone for your replies. I also want to be in a relationship but whenever I think about being in one I always get negative thoughts about not being Interesting enough to be in a relationship. Ive been single 4 years now and its not bad Ive come to enjoy my independence. Ive always looked younger then my age also feel younger. But it feels like I can never reach the next level of maturity unless I know how to be in a stable relationship. Any thought,Advice, or some of your experience?



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05 May 2014, 7:57 pm

i want a boyfriend too, but nobody wants to date me.


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07 May 2014, 12:42 am

BritAspie wrote:
I'm a gay man. My relationship status is single I'm more into NSA but I would like to have a boyfriend who is also an aspie.


I suppose this describes me fairly accurately, too.

I haven't been that open to the idea of a relationship/boyfriend in the past, but I am ever more so.

Also, the very few guys I've ever been interested in maybe dating all have aspie traits - so, I suppose that holds true for me, too. It's only recently that I've really realized that I'm more attracted to (certain) aspie guys than pretty much anyone else. I guess there are just certain aspie traits I really like. It's interesting becoming more and more self aware of these things.


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07 May 2014, 4:43 pm

Non existant. I think I need a stable place to live first, which will be happening soon. Living with others especially your family makes it impossible to date


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07 May 2014, 9:35 pm

richardbenson wrote:
Non existant. I think I need a stable place to live first, which will be happening soon. Living with others especially your family makes it impossible to date


I agree im saving up to move out on my own.



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07 May 2014, 11:31 pm

richardbenson wrote:
Non existant. I think I need a stable place to live first, which will be happening soon. Living with others especially your family makes it impossible to date


I live with others, who are family, and don't find that to be a constraint to dating in the least bit. I have a car and can go out whenever I please. It's none of their business where or with whom, but at this stage of the game of being comfortably out to them if I were going on a date and they knew that I'd be completely indifferent about it.


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08 May 2014, 2:58 pm

I'm bisexual. It took a long time for me to get my dating life started. Really didn't make a strong effort until I was 23, though I resented being alone in the years leading up to that, and I had asked a couple girls out in college (in an awkward, pathetic sort of way that lent itself to being turned down).

First time with a man was 24. First time with a woman I was 25. I've done pretty well since. I had a girlfriend for a year, and my current boyfriend for a couple years. It's a real confidence booster. Online dating helps.



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10 May 2014, 7:07 pm

[quote="Vatnos".....Online dating helps.[/quote]

My experience of online dating sites may be different than yours.

I joined a few, and the people on there just wanted sex. I didn't meet up with any of them.
Don't get me wrong, I want sex too but with Love also.


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