Being called rude, as*hole, selfish, condescending..

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any of you ever been called any of the above? I unfortunately had a meltdown and a couple of "friends" decided they didn't want anything to do with me. they claimed I was argumentative when I was simply adding to something they said, said I was an as*hole and rude for not using small talk and saying what they want me to say before jumping straight into conversation. They didn't like how I was opening my feelings up to them. Also don't like it when I try to ask them if they understand aspergers and me, and again claim I'm selfish and condescending when they clearly don't choose to understand at all and in turn both of them blocked communications with me (for now at least) I also tried to apologize and thought I was guilt tripping and completely spat in my face. Thoughts?

Welcome to social difficulties.

consider me welcomed.

your friends aren't using their best social skills either. labeling is not good communication. good riddance to them, i say.

How you are received can depend on your local culture. I've traveled quite a bit. Some places, there are no issues, others are terrible. In Gilbert, AZ, I'll have nice conversations with people I meet in a bar. In Camanche, IA, the local hee-haws called me a "red-tard" and tried to spin me in circles. So, there may be a bit of situational dependence. One place I'm seen as a nice guy with and MS in computer science and a great career. Another place, I'm seen as profoundly deficient and deserving of ridicule. I suggest you consider your surroundings.

Sadly that's the ignorant NT response to your actions.

If it makes you feel any better, It happens to me more or less when I'm around NTs.

This has been a problem my entire life. I never retained friends due to the fact that after I had an episode, they thought I was a monster. The only way I have been to retain friends is by meeting people who actually understand me. I'm lucky enough to have two such friends.

I don't like losing it, and I want to work on being less likely to lose it, but it's nice to have friends that understand you.

Being on the spectrum is frustrating just as much for those on it as for those off.

I doubt you will see those friends again, especially with that type of immature response to a meltdown. As cathylynn said, no loss. Meltdowns shine a light on who true friends are.

I realized I am autistic a little over two years ago and recently got a formal diagnosis. Previous to that, I was actually fairly comfortable with the idea I was the only one and, when I died, the phenomena would be gone and the issues moot. I was absolutely shocked and appalled that my story was far from unique. I was shocked when I realized there are millions like me. And, I'm still amazed that my experiences are the norm for autistics.

thank you for your responses everyone, one of them has gotten in contact with me again at least, but he is just pretending it never happened. He is still on thin ice with me as I do not appreciate being treated like the bad guy when I have a meltdown.