Saying sorry constantly

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Only just realised I do this. I use it as a means of being polite

"How do I get to the bathroom sorry"
"Uh sorry did I leave my coat in your room"
"Can we go over that again sorry"

I do this alot. tagging it on to the end of sentences. I thought and think that its polite but im wondering if its a bit extreme to do it with the my frequency. How would that come across?

I basically try and overcompensate because im terrified of being rude.

I actually did that a bit in my teens. Aspies have a tendency toward repetitive behavior. It's not uncommon. It could also go along with being shy, and making yourself appear less intrusive. I don't see any problem with it. I went from being overly polite to laughing frequently between sentences, even if there is no joke.

I apparently do this, too.

I'm not entirely sure how it comes across, I think it may frustrate some people.

I do this all the time. It is really annoying, but I'm always afraid that I offended someone by mistake. Like I did when I was younger. Most of the people in my life think it's annoying too.

I don't see any problems with politeness. I'd put the sorry first though.

I stopped saying sorry repeatedly the moment I was in 7th grade and someone got mad at me and told me "you say sorry too much and it annoys me". I felt embarrassed because I hadn't noticed I did this until they pointed it out. After that I became self conscious about it and stopped saying it all together.

It might come off as being unassertive. I get trying to be polite, but in most cases an "Excuse me, ..." might suffice.

Ahhhhh that makes sense

I noticed that there was a guy I was working with on group project who kept speaking over me. It was only the two of us but it got to the point that each time I said something he would interject with something anything whether thinking aloud or relevant to the setting.

I didnt really understand at the time and only just realised that it was dominance behaviour XD how hilarious. men and their need to be the chimp with the biggest hoard of bananas

Rather than "sorry," I'd use "excuse me" followed by "thank you."

Whenever possible, don't apologize, because in your mind and everyone else's, you cast yourself as having done something wrong and thus, you are in some way deserving blame.

Expressing regret or asking to be excused is much better.

I do this. I tend to apologise just for talking to someone in the first place. I think it's caused by making lots of social mistakes, so you feel insecure about things.

Remember, simply being different is often cast as wrong. Psychologists stress self-talk as a way to control perceptions, including self-perceptions. Try apologizing only if you truly do something wrong. Otherwise, you will saddle yourself with a generally degraded self-concept.

I don't do it but whenever people brush each other in the hallway at school, which is impossible to avoid with the overcrowding (prison life, huh? ), I hear many apologies and it bothers me for some reason.

Im exactly the same, guess I do because I feel I do so much wrong (socially and even how I act) and never wish to offend anybody.

This is a problem. Just because someone does things differently, does not mean they have done something wrong. What's worse, when it happens enough, people begin to feel that they are personally wrong. Thus, they feel like everything they do is wrong, simply because they did it. Autistics are being saddled with automatic feelings of shame and guilt.

I apologise excessively. Sometimes just for standing there. Experience has led to a feeling of "everything is my fault".

I apologize excessively as well. When I was younger I would often say or do things that would offend people without even realizing it, so it just became a force of habit for me. Ironically, saying "sorry" all the time is a stereotypical Canadian action, yet other people around here find it somewhat baffling. I certainly don't see other people doing it.