[Males only please] Would you marry a feminist?

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I was wondering if male WP users find feminists attractive or not, or whether it is a total deal breaker.

i am a female feminist who married a male feminist.

A feminist who believes in equality, and only points out and stands up where women are treated unfairly, yes. A 'feminist' who believes women should be treated as princesses and men are slime, no.

No..Feminist don't like me.They are rude to me

That's pretty much my take as well. I have nothing against women receiving the same amount of pay if they work as hard as their male counterparts, nor am I against them being treated with decency, dignity, and respect. However, that doesn't make them always right. I can;t stand the "radical feminism" mindset that's basically nothing but reverse sexism, i.e. a "She-Woman, Man-Hater's Club", if you will.

No, because I'm a man and all fesbianismists are carpet munching peckerphobes.

This thread is pretty much the equivalent of shouting, "Fellow Caucasian males of our great Rhodesia, who amongst us would marry a filthy n****r?" on a Saturday night in Zimbabwe. Pffft.

Serious response - no. I don't believe marriage is ever a good idea for anyone, anywhere.

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If I would ever be attracted to a woman (I'm 58) I would want someone to be my equal, not subservient. To me, to treat someone as less than you based upon their gentalia is absurd.

Yes, unless she's hypocrite in her feminism or one of those who want to castrate male babies.

What about a non-feminist who wants to castrate male babies?

I voted "no." Theoretically, feminism is simply a philosophy and movement that advocates the rights of women, which is fine. In practicality, feminism carries a lot of negative attitudes toward men, which I can deal with just fine in many places, but I don't want that attitude in my home. Generally speaking, if you start out with a feminist. you are starting out with a woman who has an attitude toward men that is much below zero and you will spend a lot of time and effort trying to make it up to zero, which isn't great. Like many movements, feminism is somewhat anger driven and often asserted using angry means. With a feminist, a man is continually under very pessimistic scrutiny. If things get challenging in the relationship, the generally negative attitude can be a very daunting factor. Feminists can be great in many roles, including coworkers, but not great to cuddle with at home. Who wants to live with "men just don't get it," "women have the right to be angry" or "we're in your face and we're not going away"? Those are fine away from home and on TV or radio, but not when I want to enjoy my home and private life.

With my autism-related lack of facial expression, people tend to fill in the blanks on my face with whatever comes into their mind. Over time, I've had a lot of feminists fictionally write anti-woman things all over my expressionless face and flame me based on their misperception. I've found feminists to be the absolute worst for mapping their negative expectations onto my face and responding with a flamethrower. Dealing with even one self-appointed women's issue cop leaves me with no place for feminism by the end of the day - I'm worn out with it.

As a side note, feminism has increased the independence and productivity of women, so there is less societal benefit of marriage and no compelling reason. Plus, for many men and women, feminism has made marriage less desirable. So, for many of us, the effect has been to defer or disregard marriage entirely - rather than affect who we choose, our actual choice is to not get married. All in all, we are best to retain individual independence, maintain latitude, stay mobile, and keep relationships tentative.

Post addition: Feminists have tried to create an all-or-nothing either-you-are-with-us-or-you-are-against-us prevalence within their movement and they have largely accomplished that. Among women, there are actually many variants, one of which are the women who believe in equal rights, but do not buy into the anti-male portion. Generally speaking, the women who don't have a negative attitude toward men have been distilled out of feminism. My observation is most women who don't carry severe anti-male attitudes usually do not self-identify as feminists.

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It's not just attractive, I prefer feminists. I find it incredibly difficult to be attracted to be a woman who doesn't respect herself, and I find it even more difficult to be attracted to an extremely submissive female. Admittingly, feminism is annoying, but at the same time, they typically respect themselves and don't fall for BS.

wow I had no idea that the word feminist has such a negative connotation nowadays. so basically for you guys feminists = man haters?

Any decent human being should be a feminist. (in the original meaning as someone who believes that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities)

To quote Rush Limbaugh (who I can't stand a good bit of the time), feminists should actually be called feminazis.

It depends, if she views me as a human being then Id say yes but if she views me like as she views all men as sex craved swine, rapists oppressors, etc and demands all men to be castrated like how the typical tumblr femnazitard says then NO!

If feminism is a huge part of her identity, I would say she probably has an irrational and unhealthy amount of anger towards men stemming from unresolved daddy issues. I stay as far away as I can from those people.

If she has her own identity apart from feminism, but uses it to fight for equal rights and equal respect for all (not both) genders, that would be a much more healthy approach. This type I might befriend or have a relationship with, supposing she's got a nice personality and our chemistry is right.

So...

Unsecure feminazis who hate the world, and has to be all up in my face about it? - No way.

A nice person who is secure in her own identity, and wants to help others because she thinks everyone should be able to live their lives on the same conditions, regardless of sex, ethnicity, socio/economic status, and so on? - Sure, I'll develop some kind of relathinship with her if it feels righ.

As for marriage? - I don't belive in marriage, and if you're a feminist, I don't think you should either. Of course it might be useful if you have/want kids and the place you live has laws and rules making it favorable for your particular living conditions.

I do tend to get along well with women who self-identify as feminists.