being more upset at "morally good" ppl

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If you get miss treated or insulted by someone, do you often get most upset when it's someone that appears to be a nice person or someone that seems or claims to be a person with good morals? I.E. Gental quiet shy type of people, hippies or spiritual people that say that love everyone and fallow principles of being loving everyone or being accepting/none judgemental, or simply people that have a good reputation of being good people. Being taken advantage do, having something said mean, or being insulted, or back stabbed by these people always make me the most upset. I guess it's because I have the expectations of them being nicer and when they are not, it's like a bigger blow. Do you feel more upset when that happens too?

Not really, those are just stereotypes. All people have a dark side to them.

The most damaging pain I've ever been dealt was by a woman who I was in a relationship with for 3.5 years. She made every promise imaginable to me. She was head-over-heels, and in fact, she was the one who proposed to me! We were engaged and supposed to marry... until about a year ago when she decided she wanted to "explore the world" as an unattached free woman.

So it's not that she pretended to be a nice, loving person... it's that she really was.... for over 3 years, I was the most important person in the world to her. Then, just as quickly as she'd entered my life, she disappeared.

Yes, it does bother me more.

as if I'm too high maintenance, too much trouble, etc.,

as if they need to come up with an extra reason, instead of just being too busy

On the flip side because I'm a perfectionist it troubles me when I don't get along with someone because I try and make an effort to get along with everyone. I've had to accept the fact that not all people can get along with each other, we're not all members of the Getalong Gang and I'm not Montgomery Moose after all.

People are just different and some people just click with each other and others don't. Because someone doesn't feel completely drawn to you, that doesn't make you a bad person or extra annoying, it just means that you two people just are not going to be best buddies. There is someone else round the corner who you will click with and it is better not to dwell on that person you didn't get on with and focus on the others in you life who you have a better friendship with.

But some things are just misunderstandings and can be resolved. Sometimes people just have off days.

No, I?m not more bothered going by how you describe it. Like mezzanotte said, everyone has a dark side. And no one can like everyone, people will be annoyed by each other and have off days.

I don't hold people to expectations because I don't like being anyone's expectations. I look at their actions for what they are then react accordingly. So a person who has been established as "nice" isn't gonna deal a bigger blow when they flip on me. Though I would be more confused though, wondering what the hell happened to lead to the "flip". Most likely I would be completely clueless...