Try, fail, forget, "instantly" succeed?

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That seems to happen in many areas of my life; I think I tried to walk once in infancy, fell down and forgot about the whole affair until 13 months when I got up and ran. Learning to tie shoes was a PITA until Velcro came out then I could suddenly tie knots. Sort of the same thing with music; tried to study guitar books in early teens then a few years later it was as if the knowledge suddenly came to me, and later on difficult pieces became easy with no practice. I'm not all that confident though that these talents extend to dating and relationships

I'm aware of the tendency to be late bloomers but how much of it stems from trying something earlier on and then picking it up through osmosis as it were?

Yes, this happened all the time with me. The easiest such example was learning to ice skate at 21. As hard as I tried, I could NOT skate backwards. Then, after months of trying, I decided to give up and focus on just keeping balanced and stopping. Then, out of nowhere, not only could I skate backwards, I could skate better backwards than forwards just like that! This continues 11 years later to this day.

I'm having no luck making friends, so hopefully this same principle applies there I have to learn to give up more often

I still can't ice skate backwards LOL

I learned to ice skate okay at age 10.

I wish you could get a hold of Gordie Howe's autobiography (or, perhaps, biography). He was somebody who seemed to have had Aspie traits--until he excelled in hockey.

Still have trouble tying my shoes and I'm almost 50.

This conversation reminds me of THE HITCHHIKER'S GUIDE TO THE GALAXY series (perhaps the third book) where Arthur Dent realized that you could fly if you fall and "forget to hit the ground."

It is sometimes easier to figure things out if you DON'T think about them too much.

The more I learn, the more I realize many hockey players (not just goalies) are probably on the spectrum somewhere: I know of an NHL prospect (who I won't name for privacy reasons) that not only looks like me but is as Aspie-like as you can possibly get, moreso than me. Probably the single nicest person I ever met and totally lanky and aloof and tends to dress and act socially far younger than he is. Then again, people have told me I look and act like a taller version of Wayne Gretzky personality wise. Who knows? You have to be a little crazy to be a professional hockey player and hockey players are about the only group that universally accept me


Me too. Still can't do a proper shoelace tie and I have been shown too many times to count. I cried when I found out they didn't make velcro sneakers my size when I was 6!

I just trust myself for things to come naturally. No thinking involved. Seems to work for me...feeling around in the dark until you find the flashlight or something.

Haha, this is exactly what happened to me with tying my shoes and riding a bike - after years of unsuccessful trying I gave up. Then I remember one day my friend tied his shoes, I watched, and then I tied mine. Just like that. Something similar happened with bike riding, except I think I did that just on my own. Both happened around the age of 10/11.