Do you have more friends of the opposite sex than same sex?

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I'm a female and I have more friends who are guys. I don't like the company of women friends as much because I find them superficial and drama-ridden. A male Aspie friend of mine prefers being friends with women over men. Is this your preference too? Why do you suppose that is?

It's about 50/50 for me.

I have both but I relate to them differently. We also have friends as a couple so some of them are married.

Historically, I've tended to have more female friends than men. I find most men to be too macho or dominating than myself, and I don't really like being around that energy. I think it's really interesting how Atwood has documented that Aspie men are generally less masculine than NT men, because that pretty much describes me perfectly. I've never cared to fit that mold of the NT man, and I think that has been a factor in my social isolation.

/\ Me too. I have always gotten along better with women than men and as a child wished a was a girl, although I have no gender confusion issues and I am straight as an arrow. It doesn't help that I look like an Alpha Male being so tall and fit but looks can be deceiving. It seems like every male I know is obsessed with sports (like me!), beer and sex and I simply cannot relate. I am definately more 'feminine' than most men I know and fall over babies like a woman would and children in general stick to me like glue. I feel like I can be more of myself around women while in men it's only to those categories listed above. If I didn't have an obsession with sports I would literally have nothing to talk about with most men. I also find women to be more mature, especially in the late teens/early 20s.

I had a 21 year old female befriend me last night and a 41 year old last month. In fact, I sat down and talked with both for over an hour. I haven't had a male do that since Grade 6 and I rarely talk about anything other than sports with men. I even enjoy the Women's discussion here as well for some bizzare reason like I can relate to women's issues better than men's issues even though I have almost no direct experience with women, having a mother that's not feminine and no sister and no girlfriend for the first 30 years of my life.

I think it's more genetic than AS. My late Grandfather was a typical male: a skilled carpenter, drank and swore heavily and was not afraid of anyone or anything. Even though he had all male friends, he used to gravitate to the women every time there was a social gathering to the point he annoyed all the women. Mom told me they would usually talk about their periods to get him to leave

Yes, but I'm agender

I don't really have good friends, but I think I'm more comfortable around my male acquaintances.
There's some girls that I'm okay with. Others are more "girlie" than me, so I don't feel like I fit in. I wish I could understand more feminine fashion, though. I walk into a store and get overwhelmed and confused by the choices. Which is actually everyday with everything, I'm a terrible choice maker. lol

Yes I seem to have more male friends than female friends. Well, practically all of my male friends are sexually attracted to me but either I don't like them back in that way or they are with somebody else, so I'm happy with just being casual friends. Don't worry, I don't have that many friends all together so it's not like I'm trying to say I have loads of men after me. It just seems to be that way.

I can't seem to make friends. I can make acquaintances, but not become close enough to form a closer friendship and be invited out with them, etc. I did have an Aspie female friend of my age, but now she has this boyfriend and so doesn't want to know me any more.

I have both, maybe slightly more male, at least half-and-half though.

it was that way as soon as i socially matured. had tons of platonic female friends. or what seems like tons to me now because, without seeming too whiny and passive about, my friends are few and far between now.
but it's weird. it seems to me like, there was some switch that went off when i went into my early 20s.. i think i'd still be into having female friends, but they were decidedly not into having guy friends as much. so i went back to having pretty much almost exclusively male friends. shrug. i don't THINK i did or became anything creepy, think it was just their general preference that changed.. but yeah you never know? or i never know anyway. not definitively. my only female friends now are my ex girlfriends, since almost all my relationships end on pretty good terms.
but anyway... if i had my way about it, it'd still be girls for me because i don't relate to what standard men are supposed to be. i'm completely apathetic about sports except in a very loose vicarious sense. i don't understand mechanical things very well at all. i tend to talk philosophy and ideology rather than shop and stats. but most telling of all, the very manner in which men tend to make friends irritates the s**t out of me. the mutual ribbing and signifying, the physical horseplay, the show offiness and constant (though usually friendly) competitive spirit. not every Motherf***er wants to joust all the time, you know? i dunno. but at the same time, i feel like an ass because i know that is simply their way of being friendly and by getting irritated, it's really ME who's kinda being a closed minded ass. but i can't help my reaction to it.

All of my friends are male because of many reasons. One of the main would be that it is hard for me to talk with girls, I don't know why. Second reason would be that people with who I am friend, share some interest with me or they are not in big group of people. When I was in playschool, I used to have more female friends than male friends.

I don't have any significant offline relationships at the moment, but my closest friend online is a female.

I have always found easier to make friends with girls and I prefer the company of them over guys because Im pretty emotional and they seem to be better at understanding me plus I'm pretty effeminate.

Female with male friends. Have had a few close female friends in the past, some were longterm, then virtually forgot I existed when they got married. So I no longer trust women as friends except in the most superficial ways.

i have two same sex friends and 5 Opposite sex friends. i get along better with boys than girls. i just dont share the same interest as some girls.

oh, but one of my same sex friends has classic autism and 4 of my opposite sex friends have aspergers.