GiantHockeyFan wrote:
For me I believe it is a combination of few experts who understand adults and a general inability to see my "invisible" pain. Sure, I have a full time job and am well liked but am friendless, lonely, unable to connect with anyone and struggle with depression and anxiety. I am also about as textbook of an Aspie as you will find. As well, I am not a stereotypical 'geek' and one of my obsessions is hockey, a "normal" special interest.
I think a lot of people (myself included) just thought I was a shy, introverted NT who was a bit of a late bloomer. Until I really learned about Aspergers I would have assumed the same. Trust me, things would be much easier if I was just shy and introverted!
GHF - I am interested in the idea of a 'textbook' Aspie. In my experience, there is no such thing - many Aspies struggle with the practicalities of life, move 'awkwardly', cannot tolerate many sensory events, and never make eye contact.
Others, like you (and me) appear totally normal, and that is part of the problem. The pain, as you say, is invisible.
So what is to be gained from a 'diagnosis'? There is no treatment or cure, but there are lots of 'textbooks'. There is little to be gained from asking the NHS to confirm or refute the information which is so widely available in textbooks, and on forums like this one..