Do you feel sometimes that you're surrounded by idiots?

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Not that I really think that they're stupid or something but some people are too emotional in my opinion. My brother for example takes all his anger on me even if the source of the problem got nothing to do with me. I generally hate when people are just unreasonable, blatantly blame you for barely relevant things you've done wrong or so. Why you have to get so mad instead of trying to calmly solve the problem? I don't think a person on autism spectrum can endure such amount of stress. What could you people suggest doing for a person who constantly has to experience quarrels in family? I think it's a living hell .

Diz,I was raised in a crazy house with crazy people!On top of that they neglected my ASD.I finally would run & hide when they started their fights.Do you have a parent that is reasonable to talk with about this issue?Maybe even a grandparent?Try not to say anything to your brother,just go to your room or the bathroom,someplace private where he can't yell or hit you.Maybe then he'll calm down & you can talk calmly about why they are so upset.i am sorry for your stress it's hard when people act like that.

Well i got my sister whose been nice to me all the time but she had moved to another country long ago. I applied to study in college starting this september, can't wait to get out of this place and have a peaceful life

Dizzee,just try to stay away from your brother you know, don't ignore him but try not to get in a confrontation either.I hope you can get into a good college & have a peaceful place to live.Just think it's only about 90 days away & then you can be away from the chaos!I hate chaos & some people are addicted to it......

Yes.

I can relate to thinking people can behave bizarrely when they are upset, doing things that don't seem relevant or helpful.
Sorry about your brother, I'd second the advice to confide in somebody and/or try to remove yourself from the situation. Hope college works out for you.
Off-topic, but is your signature of Radiohead lyrics? That's a great song.

no, well, i used to go to high school, so yeah, i pretty much was surrounded by idiots.

Constantly.

My sister is the exact same, so I can see where you coming from there.



I agree, and I have no idea what to do. >.>

Yes. This is something I first noticed in the workplace. I used to wonder how the companies I worked for hired so many idiots. Eventually, I realized that there is something about the workplace itself that encouraged people to say and/or do stupid things (that you would otherwise not expect).

Now that you mention it, I am guessing this same phenomena occurs in other forums, whenever (and wherever) human beings congregate.

YES!! ! Most people I know are quite stupid and seem to laugh at the most meh things. but they do have sharper wits than I do. I can be a bit slow :/

This isn't a condition limited to those on the Autism Spectrum, but any human being who is not having their personal needs and desires fulfilled by others (with disagreeable consequences) will often lead to the exasperated reply of; 'I am surrounded by idiots'.

'Idiots' are those people who get in the way of our own personal goals and expectations being met - always remember that...otherwise, they are just ignorant 'nobodies'.

Nobody should matter unless they personally matter to you okay? The rest of the world is like that now, so if you can't beat 'em, join 'em.

The best thing I have leaned, is not to take such emotional outbursts personally, as you are becoming just as 'emotional' as you accuse humanity as being, right?

I have a 'thing' with my family...an understanding now.

I can only be in the same room with them for 10-15 minutes at a stretch before I need my 'alone time' in my room, which is about 45-60 minutes. I just need that time to de-stress and unwind.

Thus, I will share mealtimes with them, but have to excuse myself straight after, I will join in brief conversations, but not hang around long enough for them to degenerate into gossip and sarcasm.

I will just pop my head in from time to time to just say 'hello' and engage in social 'small talk' so they don't think I am some kind of snob or something...then, back off to my room again to de-stim.

They know I require self-imposed 'time-outs' often and are very happy to oblige. lol

I also do ALL the chores around the house (I also have OCD and clean things as 'therapy'), so nobody can whine about me being lazy at least.

I just shut up and do what I HAVE to do...and if I have nothing to do, I will create something to do and do it...always!

When those who argue with you and criticise you, see you smile, walk away and go start chopping wood on the wood pile, they are like 'WTF just happened?'

You are doing something and they are doing nothing but still standing there, flapping their lips and wasting oxygen.

Then, who is going to get a lot of praise and $10 for filling up the timber box for the fireplace when your parents get home? why, you are!

Who is going to be even MORE jealous and scared of you? your silly brother. lol

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Yes.

I grew up with a crazy angry violent family too.

College was one of the best times of my life and generally its a good place for aspies. Of course you will get certain crowds that won't be to your liking but generally at colleges there is enough free space for everyone to do their own thing in peace. Having said all that, I would seriously plan ahead to facilitate your transition to college life. By the sounds of it you are going to be in a better place no matter what but still, as you close the door on all the pain you currently experience, set yourself up as best you can for the future. The added bonus is in working through your transition plans your mind will be taken off your current troubles.

Occasionally I wake up on "The Planet of the Stupid People".

Actually it happens that I wake up there more than I care to admit - to myself.

All the time. People constantly shift their perspectives and act in ways that are mainly influenced by emotion and this causes people to put very little thought into how their actions might play out over time. This isn't universal, of course, but I have watched co-workers snap back when angry with someone and make a situation worse when taking a simple breath or a few minutes to think of the right response would have sufficed.