Being a closeted autistic

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Are any of closeted? I'm half and half it's sort of like being gay which you cannot control who you are love it and hate it all the same time. Love it because of our uniqueness but hated because it prejudice and stereotypes.

I like being open but hate the consequences. Like being undermined prejudiced and being bullied usually people notice the symptoms automatically of being different and there's not much I can hide I tried to hide it from others before I knew autism existed untill a full Diagnoses .

My family's denial didn't help either.

Nope. Came out as gay when I was a kid. Came out as Aspie about six months ago. I guess I can't keep secrets. Don't tell me anything important!

You should never have to hide your true identity. You deserve respect and if people don't give it to you then screw them. It seems harsh but it's the only thing that works.

How mad I can get over stories of gays or lesbians staying in the closet their entire lives and going in the grave with it. They have loved men but they just could not accept it from themselfs. How horrible is it to feel like you are doing something wrong for your normal feelings of love? Love is such a beautiful thing.

I "came out" about my autism Dx on facebook a couple weeks ago. I was really nervous about posting it, but once I did, I was really glad I did. The responses I got were quite positive and my post got a lot of likes. I'm still kinda worried about people who may reject my diagnosis and not believe it. It would feel like they're denying a part of my identity.

I'm also half and half.

All of my friends and personal contacts know. I'm not afraid of anything with them and there's nothing to hide, because they can't screw my life over because of it. Anyone who doesn't accept it doesn't deserve to stay as a friend/acquaintance. My parents know, of course, because they're the ones who discovered it. I don't have much of a family aside from them.

However, as part of my professional involvements, I usually don't openly disclose. I don't act any different, but I don't openly talk about autism in relation to myself to anyone aside from those who know me from way back and inevitably know that I have it. Because I work in the autism field, it is inevitable that many will pick up on it and at least think of me as someone with many autistic traits. The reason why I am not open about it, though, is because I am an extremely social person and don't want others to assume that I prefer more solitary jobs and don't have the social skills to work with clients.

In fact, I often question how representative the label is of me because my communication and introspection skills are relatively strong compared to most other people on the spectrum I have met, so I can socially compensate through self-advocacy = excellent communication. It's something I've had to learn, though, several years ago I had almost no ability to advocate for myself this way.

It is not something I generally share unless on a need to know basis.

I wouldn't advise anyone to say it to everyone. People can be jerk about it.

Sort of closeted.

The people closest to me at home, at work, and amongst friends know I'm autistic. Otherwise I don't generally advertise it unless there is a reason to.

I don't tell people about my diagnosis because I don't believe it's entirely accurate. I've been treated like an autistic before and I didn't like it.

There is no way for me to hide that something is definitely wrong with me. I'd rather the truth be known up front than have people jump to ignorant conclusions.

I'm mostly open about my diagnosis, though there are a few people I still don't talk to about it. Ironically, most of these people are people I've known for years, and one of them is my mother who was actually there for my diagnosis. I went through a "denial" period in my early-mid teens, when I didn't really understand what having AS meant and how it affected me at the time, and when I told her that I "outgrew" it, she ate it up. I haven't talked to her about it since, and I honestly don't think she would get it. She has undiagnosed issues with PTSD and social anxiety, but I'm not sure how she'd take it if I tried explaining it to her. My dad and most of my relatives know about my diagnosis however, and they don't have problems accepting it.

I have no idea how many people know, I don't tell anyone however people have a way of finding out through others who have known me for a long time so I suppose that's sort of being pushed out of the closet. I wish people would stop talking behind my back about such things.

I'm in the closet. But my family knows and my husband and my doctor.

I don't really look at it as if I am hiding anything, because I am a very reserved person and most matters fall under "noneya" for me. The only people that know are my family, my aspie boyfriend, and, in the past, educators. There has only been one time that I've really felt like telling somebody. I had just spent the entire day out with a friend of mine who I used to be close with when I was much younger (quirks don't really seem all that strange when you're younger) and we decided we'd just hang out at her house for a bit before I headed home. I try to cut off all stimming that is more intensive while in the company of others, but I was so overwhelmed and uncomfortable that I wasn't able to subdue it. It made her very uncomfortable and I think she was genuinely concerned for why I was so antsy. I don't stop stimming to not come off as strange, but I do it because I can and I know that it can make others uncomfortable (I am overwhelmed by others stimming, too). I am not my autism and I don't want others to view me as such.

This.

People can almost immediately tell that I somehow have something wrong with me and I would rather tell them why that is instead of leaving them to guess why. That way, they know and can't fill in the gaps for themselves.

Though I do regret telling my classmates at secondary school about it though. Some of them were deliberately sarcastic to me or told jokes to me to laugh at my confused reactions afterwards when they got me to explain the aspects of autism.

I have told my closest friends and family but other than that I don’t usually tell anyone unless it’s necessary.