Significantly older/younger mates?

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I was just wondering if most people with AS end up with a girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse with a significant age difference. I'm 18, and my current gf is 15 (and yeah, i'm pretty much unwillingly the talk of the school now).

18 to 15 is not bad at all. It shouldn't stretch any further than that, however. At least in the teenage years. Yea, enjoy your relationship, but just remember that there's things she may not be ready for. I should mention that girls of 15 might not be quite as mature as an 18 year old in regards to relationships, so just don't ask too much of her.

Both of my past partners were close to my age.

I am 27, and currently the average age for a woman interested in me is 36. I tend to attract women who are in their 30s and early 40s.

Tim

I once dated a girl who was 13(it was last year when I fist turned 16).


-SpaceCase

My husband is 2 1/2 years older than I am. I never dated anyone significantly older or younger.

Most of the women who I've gone out with were similar age (within a few years).

I'd like to date someone older.

Hubby is 11 years older than I am.

My ex is 12 years older and we're still friends.
Even when I was in high school... my boyfriend was 5 years older.

I tend to go for older men. Had an online thing with a 44 year old, and my ex was almost 7 years older than me...and no, it is not some freudian father replacement thing, lol.

My girlfriend is 11 years older than me (I'm 39) and it works really well. My ex-wife was 9 years older and that didn't work out well. I have always attracted older women. I've dated a few younger women but there was just no connection at all.

I would stay away from anyone <18, but I would probably date a woman up to 30y/o if she would have me.

I met my husband when I was 20 and he was 43....we're still happily together, married and with two kids, 6 years later. I don't think many younger men would appreciate my strengths/put up with my weaknesses as an Aspie....that's just an observation from the fact that no younger man has ever really shown any interest in me....nor I in them though as well...so maybe that's why!

I'd be interested in you if you weren't married.

I am going on 34 in November (have Aspergers) and my long term 'partner' (well he's the father of my sons and more like roommate) is going on 43 in May.

Lara,


It's interesting you say "I don't think many younger men would appreciate my strengths/put up with my weaknesses as an Aspie." That is exactly what my husband did (in fact all my boyfriends did that). My husband was only 23 when we met and although NT, he was very serious and cerebral even then. He loved my brain and would often comment on it. He liked that I let him take care of all the everyday stuff (that I hated and ignored), so things could be his way in his environment. He would talk to me about my interests and had some very cool interests of his own. I think everything we did had a cerebral bent to it. Best of all, even back then when no one knew about Aspies and people barely knew about Autism, he knew I was different, he never thought I could be like him and he explained everything to me about what was really going on with people. He never saw that as an imposition. He just always explained things to me so that I didn't stumble into things and end up hurt or making people angry. I think those things are what actually bound the two of us so close together and keep us that way.

Zanne

all my previous partners have always been more or less my age, but almost a month ago I met someone online who is very nice, and who is 9 years older than myself (I'm 24 going on 25) and fell for her

She has made me very happy with all the chatting we have done over the past month or so, and the same can be said for her, she is also very happy too, I love her and she loves me, she is also an aspie

I have not felt as happy as I do now since I can remember