My crush/best friend

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I've known this woman for about a year and a half. Started as co-workers, became friends, and it has evolved now to where we are best friends. Beautiful woman. Dimples. Skinny. 5'2". Back-length bleach blonde highlights on brown hair. Nice plump butt.

Yeah, she's that crush that became friend zoned to the point where we have become best friends. She knows what a good time is all about, and before I met her I hadn't a clue. By being with her, I have been able to break through some of the common autistic barriers. Lots of "first time I ever did that" moments with her. She's the first woman I ever kissed (outside of my mom/grandma of course).

I love her. I care for her. I'm there for her kids. The kids love me. And in the process, we became best friends. Our best friendship has evolved quite a bit - in my book - in the past year. Every time we depart for the day, we hug. We say "I love you" to each other every time we depart, or hang up on the phone. But lately I've become sort of confused. She has a boyfriend that seems to be waning on her. And as that slowly sinks, I'm finding out that the hugs are becoming longer.

I've been working a lot lately, and I try to drive to her place whenever possible. All but the youngest kid is in school, and I play around with him when I'm there and watch the PBS cartoons while mommy picks up around the house. Over the summer me, her and her four kids have swam in the swimming pool. She's wearing a bikini the whole day. I can't help but become enamored at such beautifulness. I try not to give any hint, but am not sure if she's figured it out.

Some days she'll get ready to go to work and walk across the living room to get her clothes. She'll wear a robe. One day she got sunburnt on her back while swimming and decided to show me, which involved her showing me her bare butt. "I'm sorry but I have to show you my butt," she said. (Drops her towel). "Yeah, you got burnt," I said.

One night she had a dream about me and told me that morning. We were going to a tattoo parlor and getting tattoos. She dreamed about puzzle pieces similar to those about autism awareness, and we got "puzzle piece" tattoos; hers on her upper left thigh and mine on my upper right (or vice-versa). I didn't think she was serious at the time, even though I said I'm down for that. Then one day she said, "So, when are we going to get those tattoos?" Neither of us have tattoos, and this would be our first. We're still trying to figure out a date.

As I mentioned, I've been working a lot lately (picked up a second job) and we haven't met as much since we both work at different times. One day when I was over and she got out of the shower, walked across the living room with her robe to get clothes from her room. But this time, she came out with nothing but a shirt on; seeing her entire legs and a hint of the bottom of her butt. Just to go to the living room and grab a comb to do her hair. All while I'm sitting on the living room couch watching TV, as she crosses my path. She was in the living room for a whole minute as I tried not to oogle at her (and instead take a mental snapshot and burn it in my mind). I'm wondering if she feels okay with being pantieless and exposing her butt in front of me. We've never given each other a hint about really liking one another.

I made a facebook post two days ago about being exhausted from working long hours. Her comment was "I need more of you! Missing my bestie! <3" This, of course, made me drop plans for the next morning and come on over. After her shower yesterday, she walked around with this tiny black thong for a few minutes exposing her beautiful butt, before putting her jeans on.

She's not making any verbal clues during it all, and I'm not saying anything. Because I don't know what to say. "Nice!" could lead to many avenues. On this day, our usual parting hug was a little longer and she rested her head along my left shoulder (usually she doesn't rest her head when we hug).

I don't know whether it all is some sort of clue that she may be hiting at wanting me around more and more, or if this is something that is taken for granted in a male-female best friendship. It has be wondering what she's going to do next time I'm over (likely Monday morning, based on our work schedules).

Like I said, I love this woman with all of my heart and soul. She's made a tremendous difference in my life. Don't get me wrong, it makes me smile to see all of the skin she is showing me, but I don't know if she's trying to send me a message that perhaps she's coming on to be. Because if she is, I need a move.

When I read your comments, I wasn't sure you were talking about a friend or a girlfriend, because of the high level of intimacy you both share. If I were you, I'd tell her how I feel about her, i. e. you feel comfortable around her, you like her, you care for her/her kids, etc. In my opinion, she is giving you lots of subtle hints to show you that she wants to get close to you. You'd better open up to her about your feelings, because she may end up thinking you are not interested in her other than being a friend.

I've been friend-zoned sometimes ... Even if I would like my future bf to be my best friend, I will barely consider someone who tells me "You're a friend" and keep on trying to be physically intimate with me, as you both do. In my, book it's like playing games, and I hate it.

And this other man who is waning ... that is very confusing.

So ... talk to her. You will feel better about yourself whatever happens. I've been there, done that ... been rejected too, but at least I didn't waste too much time daydreaming.

Good luck! This woman seems to like you a lot and she IS attracted to you.