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26 Sep 2014, 5:26 am

OK so today something horrible happened. My brother had dropped out of school a while ago because he tried to kill himself, such and such but he got back now to the same school. I'll try to make this short but there are these two very mean ladies who are supposed to take care of him and they are being extremely rude towards him. They are treating him as if he is mentally ret*d, and he's given up on school and all that it just makes him really angry, and today the plans at schools had suddenly changed out of no where. instead of staying with a nice and kind lady at the cantina he had to stay with one of the mean ladies. She gave him some math work and he got really sad and angry, it's become like that whenever he gets served school work, not too be difficult but he just gets so sad because everyone treats him as if hes stupid and ret*d and doesn't understand anything. He got sad and started crying but as he is not allowed to cry at school he tried to hold it in. After that he had to have science (alone in a room) and then he broke again because he knows all this but they gave him the books and they treat him like he's challenged and so on and he just started crying because he already knew everything in the book that they were having the test about but they assume he doesn't know anything and they're just.. incredibly mean and ignorant. Later on instead of contacting MOM while going through it like the lady said she would she just takes it with him alone, because he is unable to say stuff he just said Okay as she stated that they'd go through this(he was holding the tears back) and then she says "There is no reason for you to cry right now it's extremely unnecessary." That's when he couldn't hold back and he yelled that he doesn't care, using strong language,(I don't f*****g care). Then she rages at him for swearing and tells him it's unacceptable and they cant have challenged people at this school and that its a school for NORMAL students and not challenged ones like him, and he started crying allot and covered his ears, when the lady left the room he stopped the recording and called me and asked me to tell mom to come and get me so I did but it took some time for her to get there, meanwhile he had cthen the lady comes back in and takes his phone because he's not allowed to use it and yells at him for that.. Then she left and another lady comes in and calmly asks him what's wrong and he didn't know what to do because they'd just turn it back at him and yell at him... then both of the ladies were in the room and started yelling at him for stuff.. He covered his ears most of the time but he opened them twice the first time they said that he was acting like a 3 year old and that he's just like one and he closed his ears again cause he didnt want to hear it, then again he opened his ears and they were on about how he doesn't understand anything because he is autistic and he just covered them again and then my mom came sooner, and he just cried and cried and cried... When my mom came they yelled at her telling her they cant have students there like him, then again stating that it's a school for NORMAL people... and she yelled at him for swearing and told my mom that he was just making a scene and all that i know he weren't... and then I don't remember what she said but it was extremely mean of her and he reacted badly and tried to hit her from the other side of the table but he couldnt reach her so he tried to kick for her and so on and then started hitting himself it just it wasnt a good time but he's home now.. I don't know what to do, neither does my mom or anything else.. We can't contact the hospital he's been there before, not a psychiatrist, nothing but im just so angry at them there is nothing to do with it.. but I want to do something to hurt that lady for she's been so mean to my other friend that goes there as well.

Just a trick, something without being caught or having to pay allot of money that I cannot afford, just like a prank or anything that can mess stuff up for her, I know it's really bad but I don't know I wand justice somehow... We can't tell the police what they've done or anything like that... That's why I'm aiming for revenge this way..
It's the same brother as i made the research forum for.



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26 Sep 2014, 5:37 am

Is there any way to prove what you say to anyone? That's abusive behavior by those women.
You will not get any justice by a prank. It won't stop the bad behavior. Is there any way that you can get any kind of recording of these women and the things they say? Can your brother carry a hidden recorder? Maybe one that even he is not aware of?



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26 Sep 2014, 6:51 am

beady wrote:
Is there any way to prove what you say to anyone? That's abusive behavior by those women.
You will not get any justice by a prank. It won't stop the bad behavior. Is there any way that you can get any kind of recording of these women and the things they say? Can your brother carry a hidden recorder? Maybe one that even he is not aware of?


No there isn't really but we DID get to talk to someone today, I don't know how to translate this but it's a team(two people) and they just come when theres a crisis, they believe us but they said there isn't much to do about their behavior... It's a good idea and I wish we had more of it to show someone but we're not planning on forcing him back into class :)



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26 Sep 2014, 9:17 am

I would like to suggest you think long and hard, what is in the best interests of your brother. Often revenge is not in your best interest, revenge comes from a desire to harm someone rather than to help you or a friend.


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26 Sep 2014, 11:37 am

Revenge is not what you need. Be constructive about it.

If these women are being very rude and mistreating your loved one, RECORD IT. Film them doing it. Let their own actions be what condemns them.

Show that to your parents and they will decide if to bring up charges on these women or show the video to the boss of those women. Your mom is witness to the behavior of these women so she would be able to see clearer just what they're doing to your brother.



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28 Sep 2014, 9:36 am

What kind of a school doesn't allow it's students to cry after subjecting them to such horrible treatment?

Furthermore I agree with Dantac completely. You should definitely try to make the perpetrators feel the consequences of their actions through the school instead of pulling a prank that could hurt you more than them.


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30 Sep 2014, 2:19 pm

AmalieAmalieAmalie wrote:
beady wrote:
Is there any way to prove what you say to anyone? That's abusive behavior by those women.
You will not get any justice by a prank. It won't stop the bad behavior. Is there any way that you can get any kind of recording of these women and the things they say? Can your brother carry a hidden recorder? Maybe one that even he is not aware of?


No there isn't really but we DID get to talk to someone today, I don't know how to translate this but it's a team(two people) and they just come when theres a crisis, they believe us but they said there isn't much to do about their behavior... It's a good idea and I wish we had more of it to show someone but we're not planning on forcing him back into class :)


Glad you at least got the validation of speakign to someone who believes that.

Those working in school should know better than to berate someone crying, tell them they're not normal or accuse them of acting like a baby... those are jr high school insults to aim at your peers, not the way an adult should speak to someone in their care.



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03 Oct 2014, 11:38 pm

you need to feel and accept your own anger first and then let it go.

Revenge will hurt YOU, yes, YOU worse than you are hurting now.

Let it go.