Sedentarian wrote:
Thinking introversion.
Ditto
DevilKisses wrote:
Anxious introversion
You are consumed with a fear of failure. When you are with groups of people, you spend a lot of time worrying about ways you could make a bad impression. The best way for you to relax is to go somewhere by yourself and let it all go.
This describes me pretty well. When I'm around people where it's easy to make a good impression I actually become extroverted.
I recently decided to make a move on a girl I like in this class, and normally the "anxious introvert" in me would completely consume me, intensely every day between the weekly classes, but I've been reading Tony Robbins'
Awaken The Giant Within, and it has honestly prompted a turning point for me, the biggest recent takeaway being: It's not a question of failure or success, it's what you think of failures (a general reflection of incompetence, or an opportunity to make something great happen in the future). Also, simply focusing on the reward of the positive behavior over the negative consequence of not performing the positive behavior is more sustainable, the carrot usually wins over the whip in the long run. It' sort of what your saying, not putting all the stock into the immediate outcome of an important event.