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18 Oct 2014, 8:05 pm

When I dont even make it out of house?



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18 Oct 2014, 8:43 pm

I am proof of this. Although, to be honest, you probably have better chances of getting into a LDR online than finding a boyfriend IRL...



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18 Oct 2014, 9:32 pm

Step 1: Make it out of house

I would recommend giving online dating a shot.



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18 Oct 2014, 9:38 pm

calstar2 wrote:
I am proof of this. Although, to be honest, you probably have better chances of getting into a LDR online than finding a boyfriend IRL...

Proof that you can? If so, perhaps you have some tips for asp123 or describe how it came to be?



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18 Oct 2014, 10:00 pm

are you even 21 yet? what country do you live in?


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18 Oct 2014, 10:02 pm

yellowtamarin wrote:
calstar2 wrote:
I am proof of this. Although, to be honest, you probably have better chances of getting into a LDR online than finding a boyfriend IRL...

Proof that you can? If so, perhaps you have some tips for asp123 or describe how it came to be?


Yes, I have a boyfriend atm and got him at a time when I very rarely left the house. We met at an autism event and he heavily pursued me after that, so I don't think I have any helpful tips. Just that if she'll have to leave the house if she's not looking for an online relationship.

EDIT- I thought the thread title was "Is it possible?"

The answer to how is having good luck, I guess.



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18 Oct 2014, 10:15 pm

asp123 wrote:
When I dont even make it out of house?


Have you tried going to Church?



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18 Oct 2014, 11:40 pm

Be a girl.

That works for most guys. I'd say it's a lot easier being a single girl trying to get a guy than it is being a single guy trying to get a girl.


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19 Oct 2014, 1:53 am

According to this guy (http://www.freedomtwentyfive.com/2011/0 ... h-edition/) all you have to do is:


1. Don't be fat
2. Take care of yourself and your looks
3. Don't act like a man
4. Don't be a whore
5. Don't be a slut



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19 Oct 2014, 2:40 am

I don't agree with most of that except that maybe women should help pay for dates, but I'm not a quality or real man, so what do I know



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19 Oct 2014, 2:55 am

I also disagree with those, because I'm neither of those and I don't attract guys.



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19 Oct 2014, 3:24 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
According to this guy (http://www.freedomtwentyfive.com/2011/0 ... h-edition/) all you have to do is:


1. Don't be fat
2. Take care of yourself and your looks
3. Don't act like a man
4. Don't be a whore
5. Don't be a slut



I would apply the same demands towards the guys as well ,except no 3. cause I do not care whether guy is feminine or not.



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20 Oct 2014, 2:04 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
I also disagree with those, because I'm neither of those and I don't attract guys.


that list is geared to neurotypicals in mind, and in no way takes into account people on the spectrum.



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20 Oct 2014, 2:26 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
According to this guy (http://www.freedomtwentyfive.com/2011/0 ... h-edition/) all you have to do is:


1. Don't be fat
2. Take care of yourself and your looks
3. Don't act like a man
4. Don't be a whore
5. Don't be a slut


I don't agree with any of them. You could be all 5 of those things and they wouldn't prevent me from accepting you as a girlfriend. Well except perhaps to a small extent no 1., I'm not fussy but perhaps not if you're really obese.



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20 Oct 2014, 3:01 am

Shebakoby wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I also disagree with those, because I'm neither of those and I don't attract guys.


that list is geared to neurotypicals in mind, and in no way takes into account people on the spectrum.


Agreed.



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20 Oct 2014, 3:35 am

Shebakoby wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I also disagree with those, because I'm neither of those and I don't attract guys.


that list is geared to neurotypicals in mind, and in no way takes into account people on the spectrum.


And it's completely wrong, even for NT's. Maybe those things are important to some men but not all. Also, the guy who wrote that article is either an MRA or a pick-up artist, nobody else uses the word "mangina".