All my classmates is doing to good - I feel like a loser

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I watched facebook recently, and discover that all my classmates from childrens-school is like stuidying to become engineers, attorney.. and they have moved to the big city to do great, I guess.

It feels like I have failed because I am only going 1 day a week in school. And they have come so far. I will never be anything and I will truly live on insurance for the rest of my life

I rather be poor and live on the street, than rich, having a house, but no friends nothing

ANYone feels the same way?
Or have any encouraging words to a deprivated me?

I know it's difficult, especially at this age, but my advice would be to mainly focus on your own education and not pay too much mind to your old classmates who are apparently most of them 'doing well'.

What is this 1-day a week school you speak of? Is it like a work+school thing, where you are learning and working simultaneously? Because that's nothing to be ashamed of. It requires its own distinct brand of stamina and discipline.

I actually agree with your philosophy that it's preferable to be 'poor' and happy, then to be rich and miserable. Try to find your own happiness, and the mode of living that you are most comfortable with. And then it will all work out.

Don't get hung up on classmates pursuing 'high-profile' jobs and career paths like law, meds, and engineering. In my adult life so far I have worked as a cleaner, an assembly worker, and a warehouse employee among other things. All 'menial' jobs. Yes, I've had opportunities to turn this around and enroll in university, but I didn't jump at those opportunities because I felt more comfortable doing it this way.

If you want to find a path that might lead you to successes similar to what your old classmates are enjoying, you can take action to make it so. If you want to wait, you can wait. If you want to do something else, don't feel ashamed of it.

Hope that helps you out a bit.

I always feel this way but never give up or anything just continue doing whats right even if you have to force yourself, I always did that so I progressed so much higher than I expected

You haven't failed, nor are you a loser...

From what I've read, you're taking your educational path at your own pace.

Also, how can anyone be a Loser? To me, that only comes to be implied if you actually lost at something or lost something.

I understand how you are thinking; what got me over it, was to think about all the factors that they(our classmates) have to oblige themselves with their pursuits. Mainly, the financial factor... I haven't further my own education because I, One; don't know which degree to study for the career field that I want and Two; the cost is too much overhead to think about once gain a position in that career field, if ever. Also, with the statistics known; just getting a degree matters when actually what should matter, is the degree itself.

I do agree with philosophy but, in my own way... To me; a person can in fact, have too much money. $250,000 may not be much to someone that could easily spend on one item; but to someone that budgets that same amount and spend on several items, that amount can change their lives and those surrounded by that person.

I'm thinking/hoping that what I stated, helps you feel better.

Most of my peers aren't doing any better than I am, not sure if that is better. The fact I don't have a criminal record, not addicted to drugs, and no illegitimate children puts me ahead of the curb at this point. I don't come from a very nice place, people I knew were impressed by the fact I was enrolled in community college at a time.