Do dating sites actually work?

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I have never tried it, and i have some mixed feedback about it. Theres always stories about how it works for some people but does it work usually?

I am confident about my looks, but i am not very socially attractive so i think thats what stops me. I dont smile much, i dont look people in the eye, and i talk very monotone most of the time.

I think dating sites are just another way people connect. I tend to think they have about the same success rates as other ways of meeting people.

That's a pretty apt way of putting it. It is as effective as any other style of dating, only people can develop really high expectations, I find, when you're talking to them online. Both parties, because communication is typically via internet, have the opportunity to impress each other with the full measure of their eloquence and a good picture, nothing more. All else is left to the imagination. There is a subtle signal in people which draws them on a hormonal level. It is always very possible that you will connect with someone intellectually but find that when you meet them in person you are not at all attracted to them.

Dating sites worked for me fairly well. All the girls I dated except one, were from one dating site or another. Heck, I even lost my virginity thanks to the internet, although she was from an escort site, not a dating site. The key is to be patient and aim low.

I have not been on Aspie Affection long as i can't really say, although i made one good friend thanks to it

When I view those sites it is always the same thing: very few girls my age (many of which weigh much more than I do) and an army of decent looking men my age (which always makes me wonder why they are even listed on those sites in the first place). This is actually the same problem with the students at my university (which, I swear, is like 60% male). Then again, I live in a relatively rural area and that may be part of the problem. However, those sites seem to be completely worthless to me.

Sometimes, for some people.

Just another medium for meeting others I believe. Never actually tried it, do have two friends though who both met people on a dating site. One got married and seems really happy to this date and the other, after a few not so pleasent meetings seems to have met someone really nice.

You can meet people in bars, clubs, university, work even in the supermarket and just like dating sites the experience can either be positive or negative, successful or unsuccessful and sadly we can meet people who are going to let us down just about anywhere.

I've had mixed results with online dating.

The main part is honesty. Nobody knows who you are, or who the other person really is.. Said, my longest relationship with an online date was probably two weeks. Two of them are very good friends though.

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The nice thing is that you can set up an encounter without actually having to go through the awkward early steps face to face. The problems are (a) you still have to deal with someone you don't really know; (b) if you're like me, you won't be able to make the initial contact, even over the net - I have a real moral hangup with meeting people.