All the girls I know say they're bi.

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I was reading a topic on queer tumblr people, and I was thinking about how all the girls I know but one say they're bi.

And my friend has only dated guys, like seven guys in the past two years, no girls, and still says she dates more girls than guys...

I also was a little suspicious of all the pansexual teenage girls I see on tumblr, but the (three) guys are also queer so maybe there's a different cause.

And I'm a girl who's also wondering if I like girls, but I feel bad because I'm probably buying into some trend.

Because all girls are bi. It's in our culture. Take a look around. A lot of beautiful, sexy girls in media. Calling in anyone who looks at the screen. They feed us it since we are young kids. Woman are represented as a sensual and sexual.

But even if a girl likes other girls too its easier to date a boy than a girl since it is also what they feed us our whole life. Even though girls are "so beautiful and worth of love" all the pairs in TV and books are woman + man, not woman+woman. "You can date a girl for the experience but if you want a real relationship you should date a boy because thats the only way how families start". "If you date a girl your dream about white dress and a baby will never come true". Because a girl is not designed to be with a girl even though girls are perceived as so loveable and beautiful.

Wow, Kiriae, you hit the nail on the head. It's a mind screw and a big one at that.

It's also ridiculous.

I personally believe everyone should like who they like and be with who they want to be with whether or not they'll get a white dress/family from it, and really why shouldn't they get the white dress and a family, hell, we can now turn human eggs into sperm cells or combine DNA from any cells in a body to create offspring.

As for the white dress, well it doesn't have to be in a church or another religious thing ^^. The whole religion thing saying that homosexuals are bad is outdated anyway, as are many things in religious laws and traditions yet people cling to them like a lifeline, it's quite sad in an upsetting sense when one thinks about it.

Anyway, I don't think people like females or males (mostly) when it comes down to it, what most people like is people, yes we're naturally attracted to this and/or that but at the end of the day we will prefer certain personalities more than looks, well, in my opinion/experience anyway, and that's what should matter, I don't think anyone should limit themselves to a particular group of people or indeed cut themselves off from a particular group of people, but just get to know people and see what develops, those relationships, at least for me, have been the most rewarding, not the ones where I've said "wanna go out" and done that, but where I've been friends with them first and had similar interests/experiences etc.

I keep trying to better myself and meet new people every day.

So yeah, basically, my advice would be don't worry about if you like females or males, just get to know people and see if you like that individual, if you do, great, if not, well, at least you hopefully got a friendship out of it.

"my advice would be don't worry about if you like females or males, just get to know people and see if you like that individual,"

Yes. Sometimes there is a person who is just fun and accepting and interesting and, yes, beautiful in a way that you are not used to appreciating, but they are not your preferred sex.

Well how much do you like 'fun, accepting, and interesting' as opposed to 'right sex but not nearly as fun (out of bed) or interesting'? When you weigh these things in the balance, sometimes you fall in love with the person regardless of their sex.

If a person is just interested in exercising their equipment rather than a relationship, they can chase after preferred sex and looks and have fun playing together and thank their 'one night stand' for a fun time. But looking for a lifemate is a horse of a different color.

You make a good point, Max, thank you. I try to fully explain every point but don't always get it across. Also sometimes my posts may be bias.