Never dated, kissed, Etc. Lesbian

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I haven't been on here forver but I have never dated, kissed, and so on with another woman and I am going to be soon (January) getting tested by a neurodoc and I swear you just know you have aspergers without any testing being done. I have no clue on dating, and let alone sex I don't get it lmao I do read up on stuff but wth you know? How is it possible for a recently aware gay woman do this stuff you call dating? I didn't start having sexual desires so to speak until about 18 or 19 and realized I was gay a couple years ago... What advice would you give someone like in that regard cause I am lost. There's no education for aspergers and females anywhere right? I've looked but Idk. I am a late develpoer in this department.

Also, I identify as genderqueer/andrynous I guess. I always felt like neither female or male but aware I'm female lmao I need help ugh

I guess the same advice a person would give anyone. (To be fair, my experience with relationships is very minimal) Don't rush into or try to force relationships. Make sure that you know your body and what you like so that you are able to guide another person. Don't be afraid to say no or ask someone to back off if they move too quickly or you are simply not interested. Only do what you feel comfortable doing. Hmm...as far as getting out there and meeting people is concerned, I don really know what to say. Maybe try to find some social groups centered around your interests so that you meet people that you have something in common with. Work on building friendships first (or just sleep with them. Whatever is fine as long as it is consensual and everyone involved is comfortable).

Thanks but I also have no friends which at 23 is embarrassing... I seem to either lose them without knowing why or I subconsciously let them go. I think I 've had people hit on me but IDK lmao they stare which I'm very uncomfortable with and gets me angry. I find it rude I get dirty looks from women (I think I am). I am also demisexual so...

Where do you work/study?

I don't really pick up on flirting (or understand why any sane person with decent visual acuity would flirt with me). I was recently told that one of my coworkers asking "do you like women? ...because I do." was making a pretty blatant attempt to get my attention (and had been dropping hints for the better part of a month). My point is, you have to really pay attention to what people say and the behavior around you. They can surprise you. Maybe it is time for you to put yourself in situations that could lead to friendships and romantic relationships. I realize that this is easier said than done.

Hello. I am a lesbian, and I didn't date until I was 26. I got my first date (and one or two other quality dates) by using craigslist, although I wouldn't necessarily recommend that. It is known for being full of crazies, but there are sane people on there, and it probably depends on the local area.

I think your approach should be based on your personality. If you don't do well in groups and you come off as significantly "odd" on first impressions, I don't think joining groups is a good way to find dates, unless it's a group for "odd" people (nerdy subjects, disability support groups, etc.).

I think that people are more willing to deal with "quirks" in a one-on-one situation.

There is:
online dating
participating on a general-purpose social networking website (shoe.org is good for lesbians, for example; I don't recommend huge sites like Facebook)
having a Youtube channel
possibly volunteering in a public service capacity (if there are enough lesbians in your area such that some might see you)

These are the kinds of things I recommend to introverted, socially anxious, or too-eccentric-to-fit-into-groups people.

Like someone else said, it's very helpful to be able to recognize when people are flirting with you.

Here's my backstory, I dropped outta school at 15, been trying to get my ged, tried to see if college would work hell no, done americorps cali and youthbuild mass, my mom said she thought I could've ee autistic when I was 3 due to me not speaking and just making noiss and pointing at things, have speech issuses and still sort of do, I have ben doing online dating/friend thing for over a year and it seems I'm too I don't even know... I don't care what people think of me I have a very strong personality as I've been told. so.. I have had jobs but quit them all due sensory issues but now in process of getting a (hopefully) job at umass near my house. I can't really drive even though I have a license I get anoxiety really bad when too much going on and stufff. My anxiety has been crazy in the last couple years. I have food and enironmental allergies, hypothyroid, asthma, and had and stil kind of have constipation. I was boern premature my mom i just found recenl;ty) she drank and smoked a little before knowing she pregnant, I am seeing a psycologist she's listening to me unlike all the othjer's in the past. Says it looks like I might be dyslexic, have aspergers, but only way to know if I get tested which is happening in january at beth israel hospital so... hat's good. I don't wahat else

26 here and happily married. i'd say to say one of the hardest things is just getting out there. most of my friends are straight and i love them. but getting out there means putting yourself out there. LGBT community. Going to events and if you are into faith and God church also helps. the one doesn't just fall from the sky you have to look. you have to patient. there is no rush remember that!