It is very common for me as an older autistic woman to have medical people who think they know about autism (but are not specialists in it, usually) to take one look at me and decide I am not autistic. It just makes my blood boil, and if I didn't have a diagnosis from a psychiatrist (who took four 1-hour sessions to make a diagnosis) I would be in a lot of trouble. (Like the psychiatrist who assessed me for two hours, mostly about something else, doesn't think I'm autistic, but didn't take the diagnosis off my file because of my prior diagnosis. She also equated PTSD with flashbacks, as if that's all there is to it.) Who are these people who think they know what autism looks like in women, especially older women, when there really hasn't been any concerted effort to research the issue????
The extreme male brain theory makes me so mad. First of all, we have more androgynous brains (as per the original fetal testosterone theory put forth in the '70s) not more masculine ones. Who the hell thinks male nerds have more masculine brains than male jocks? That is not what "masculine" normally means!
And this is a theory that comes from the same person who sold people on the idea of no theory of mind or empathy either (SBC). Neither of those theories ever held up under scrutiny but the public just ate them up because SBC (Simply Bloody Clueless?) is so good at selling his ideas. I wish he were half as good a scientist as he is a politician.
I think autistic women have legal rights here that are not being addressed. Any research that uses public funding should definitely not be allowed to discriminate against autistic women by taking the male as the norm and sort of shoehorning us in afterwards. Researchers need to use both male and female data from the beginning, and enough of each sex to test for sex differences on top of everything else.
So if I'm not autistic because I don't conform to adolescent male stereotypes, what do I have? "Hyper-analytical-sensory-overload-communication-difficulties-social-isolation syndrome, not-autism"???
And that's another thing: people who disagree when I tell them I have difficulties communicating, on the basis of a few minutes conversation. Yeah, you might think I communicate just fine, but you're not listening, so how would you know???
This is such a major issue and if anyone wanted to lawyer up and go class action on sexist stereotypes coming out of research/diagnostic standards, I would be so in.