Strategies of coping with change, yours is?

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Okay, right now my issue is how to cope with change in support and I can briefly say what is happening. Last year one of the support workers I had and known for seven years left to do something else and so I had a replacement. A secondary support, (social worker) is now moving departments and so next week she is visiting (I live in a house that has supported living) is coming here with the new SW but I am feeling that I can't cope with all the changes, like, I would rather have no support than come to terms with learning about a whole new person again, that is, cutting myself off, not the way, I don't know, it's just how it feels inside, hoping others will understand this feeling, like it isn't something you think, okay I will just see how it goes, something is there that feels bad, not trust specifically, just the whole process of change, with me sudden change is far worse but often I can't deal with change of routine even slight but if it keeps happening is worse so, I am hoping others will write how they cope with change generally or they might even be in my situation and can offer some advice. Many thanks.

I can really empathise with your situation. I recently got a new boss at work and I was extremely anxious about meeting them because I liked my old boss quite a lot. It turns out my new boss is actually nicer and more hands-on than my old boss. It still took me quite a while to get used to them but it gets easier with time if you make the effort. I'd suggest focusing on everything that has remained the same in your environment and life. You will be dealing with a new person but presumably your living arrangements will be the same as before. Change is easier for everyone if some things stay the same and you remind yourself of those unchanging things regularly. You never know perhaps this new support worker will be better than the old one.

Thank you. Maybe that is a good starting point, what you say, it's the fear of something unknown maybe. the situation is that the social services department have opened a new one for Asperger's and Autism, well that's a good thing anyway because it can sometimes seem amazing that so much is unknown about ASD or like there are so few facilities? In my town which isn't huge but isn't small either there is one drop-in group that I know of where they meet one day for just two hours. I don't go there because there is one person I really don't like but that's my loss, I understand that. Well the situation in living is kind of another matter because I was placed here which is a care home mostly but has other people non-autistic and with conditions like schizophrenia which I hardly know anything about, the main thing for me though is that there are eight of us and I can't bear crowded places or busy places, I am a quiet person except for playing my music sometimes. So they are looking to move some place more suitable but are finding it hard, I kind of thought there would be houses with one or two other adults because that is what would be best for me, instead there seem to be places like this where people can live but with lots of different diagnoses and I feel like an odd sock in a big washing machine. So I said to staff earlier, forget Tuesday, I don't want to meet the new person. That stayed on my mind and then I thought that I could really need some advice from people in situations and who know, you can see I just joined Wrong Planet today, the reason for doing it but maybe it's a good thing too I did join a community because it's always open, not like here when staff go home for the night that is it.

So tomorrow my SW is coming but by herself. I feel like this is happening too much now. You get used to someonefor years and you face seeing a total stranger. I ssid I would rather do without even though it probably might be tougher. There is always email.