Immature sense of self?

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I've been thinking a lot this week about "who I am" and it just dawned on me that I appear to see myself as a child. It's as if my sense of self never fully developed along with my body. Maybe I'm mistaken, it's difficult to tell how I truely see myself. Does anyone else feel this way? Is it part of AS?

Am I the only one? I think it's why adult relationships seem to baffle me.

Everyone is a child, lots of people just pretend they're a different species without swapping bodies.

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I feel immature, too. When I see other people of my age, I feel they are more mature and responsible. I don't feel I can fully function in the adult world.

I feel like I'm either a child or a 15 year old trapped in a 21 year old body. I guess I feel like a child and a 15 year old at the same time really.

Like a child I only enjoy social interaction when I'm playing some kind of game with somebody. I get no pleasure from small talk even when I seem to be doing alright with it (which isn't often).

I have the work ethic and attention span of a child. Have fun now and put off responsibilities. That's how I seem to be. I procrastinate so much and sometimes I leave things until it's too late to do them.

I feel like a teenager between the ages of 14 and 16 but not a child when it comes to phases. It seems like I experiment a lot and try things out the way most people do when they're several years younger than me. I never did that so know I'm trying a lot of new things. I even wore a cat collar as part as my regular outfit for a few weeks.

Us Aspies tend to be immature for our age & I read somewhere that on average Aspies mental ages are one 3rd less than their physical ages

Most humans are immature and do not realize they are just system of biological functions that respond to the environment. Hence, there is not self as we are not in control. For example, tell me what your next thought is? You cannot as you have to think about, hence, you cannot predict your own thoughts. Thus, you have a lack of control.

I'm now 34 and I just now am getting to feel like an adult. I've always been about 5 years behind. When I was 10, I often still watched little kid shows during the day in the summer. When I was in high school, I still felt like a 12 year old and often acted like one. In college, I felt more like a teenager than like an adult planning for a career. After graduation, I felt very out of place in the adult world. I think part of the problem is that behavioral expectations change as we get older, and by the time I figured out what was expected from one age, everyone else was on to another. My few friends are several years younger than I am.

In middle and high school, I usually felt at least a few years behind everyone else, even though I was usually never the youngest in my grade. I could tell that people thought I was really immature too, but I didn't know how to fix it. As I got older I hoped that I would catch up to where my peers were, but the opposite happened. I retained the maturity of my middle school self well into my senior year, despite being more intelligent academically than most if not all of my peers, so the disconnect was even more extreme. The fact that people thought I was smart made them expect more of me, and I often had people telling me I should be able to do this or that because "you're not stupid".

Honestly, I still don't feel like I've matured much socially. I tend to avoid social interaction of any kind now, so I think that just makes me look like I'm a loner, which is better than people thinking I'm extremely immature at least.

I view myself as someone much younger than my actual age. I will be 33 soon, yet I feel like I'm in my late teens and, in most cases, have the maturity of someone of that age.

I too would agree. I am 51 now and never really got past 21. I always remain 21 or less in my sense of self. In some
eastern philosophies e.g. the Tao (Dao) it says about attaining the mind of a child through meditation, erasing adult and environmental/cultural learnings and programming, I think some of us just never understood the pseudo reality of adults? Anyway I was youngest in my class but won the best scholar award, to my embarrassment. I certainly would not worry about it. Having a younger and often clearer and purer mind is fun! Life is fun, enjoy. Adults are far too stupid. I went on to run my own businesses etc.. as Richard Branson says: Have Fun, do good and make money. Notice he puts money last, I think because if you enjoy what you do e.g. develop a hobby in to a job then you will make money as everyone sees your passion and knowledge, plus us Aspies can talk for hours to someone who will listen...
Dave AQ38, IQ169* (*just means you recognise patterns in things)
HFA/Aspie

Same age as you Dave, and forever 21 as well. I'm glad - don't want it any other way.