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QuiversWhiskers
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20 Jan 2015, 12:28 pm

Does it anger you when someone intentionally interrupts certain stims? Like the really hard stims?

It does me. I feel really agitated and it totally ruins it, like I have to start all over again, but still feel disrupted from the interruption, like I don't get as much from the stimming as I would have otherwise.



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20 Jan 2015, 1:11 pm

I would think that this is a normal reaction - stimming for me is a private thing. Being interrupted is somewhat "jarring".


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20 Jan 2015, 4:47 pm

eggheadjr wrote:
... stimming for me is a private thing. Being interrupted is somewhat "jarring".


It is for me too, but my husband and kids see a lot of it. It's usually the kids who do this interrupting thing. It just occurred to me that they really see it as playing or something when it isn't and want to join in or think it's a good time to try to get me to play with them when the opposite is true. They don't seem to learn either. Often I go into a room alone to get away (within hearing distance) and do stuff and they either follow me or they FIND me wherever I go. I can usually hold in the anger and annoyance but I feel bad about being angry in the first place. When he is around he doesn't interrupt me and when I go in my room he doesn't constantly open the door to annoy me and he tells them to leave me alone. The stuff the kids come after me for is silly stuff like, "Mom, I have to go potty." Then go! It's right there; I don't need to know about it. They makeup excuses to open the door and I hope this doesn't sound like I can't be bothered by my own kids; that's not the case.



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20 Jan 2015, 5:16 pm

I don't like it when people tell me stop because 99% of the time it's pretty damn impossible to stop. And if I do stop I usually change to a much more active one which seems to annoy them even more, unintentionally (annoying them and the stim I happen to swap to).



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20 Jan 2015, 5:22 pm

It's not only hard to stop a hard-stim, but it's also something that I don't want other to see me doing, and I go to great lengths to make sure I don't get caught in the act. So it's not just the interruption that's annoying. but the embarrassment that fallow after.



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20 Jan 2015, 9:37 pm

I often rock back and forth, and people sometimes tell me to stop. Several times I have even had someone grab me by the shoulders and try to hold me still. One time I'm sure it was out of annoyance, but the other times I'm pretty sure it was like a joke to them :roll:



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21 Jan 2015, 7:50 am

Doesn't really anger me, but it certainly annoys me.

On the other hand, my mom usually stops me, not other people if I didn't noticed myself rocking soon enough. (If we're alone or/especially in public)
I'm glad one of my main stims is sort of disguised as a long walk daily exercise. :lol:


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21 Jan 2015, 10:02 am

I fidget a lot of my hands and fingers. Sometimes, I open and close things repeatedly (such as the cases for my glasses). Or, I will snap and unsnap something. Or, I will tear of paper into little balls. Or, I will trace my fingers around an object repetitively. Or, I will twist my pen in my hands. Anything.

If my wife is with me, she always seems to notice. And, always asks me to stop. Which is really annoying.