State of Friendships

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A lot of threads lately have been about making friends, and it seems that there are some on the spectrum who want friends and some who don't. So, I wanted to poll and find out what the "state" of your friendships are, and if you are happy with it. If you'd like, comment below.

I would like a few close friends but right now don't have what I am looking for. I have many, many, many acquaintances and "situationships", and people are generally very cordial, chatty and friendly to me. However, I don't "connect" with them on the level needed to satisfy my desire for friendship. My husband is my best friend and I am grateful. Just sometimes I'd like to have another real friend or two IRL.

The problem is, I don't really like the few friends I do have. I can't choose my friends though. Sometimes I wish I could.

i know all the few people i need to know. i like them, i just would like to connect with them more.

i've found myself entering quite a few acquaintance-ships and situationships i couldn't care about strengthening or losing.

i like that term. 'situationships'.

I have 3 people I frequently hangout with and live with so I'd call them friends. I'm content with this number, very easily manageable. They're probably going to fade out down to 1 next year though so I have that not to look forward to. 2 are going to graduate.

My husband coined the term. It seems a lot of people like it. Very fitting, I find.

that's how i 'lost' some of my closest friends. they graduated two years before i am set to graduate.

well, not really lost, but i have lost all contact with all from that group except one, whom i only see once a month or so when i get art supplies. (he works there). we talk sometimes.

hope ya still keep in touch with them after they move on.

I hope so, they might come back and visit me and the other guy every so often.

No friends and quite lonely.

I'm happy with no friends but a friend would be nice every so often.

I would like to befriend other people who will show me the same respect and dignity as much as I show them but I'm pretty satisfied with the amount of friends I have right now, even if I am openly jealous of other people who are adored by others.

I used to have friends but as Ive got older Ive lost touch with most of them as they've gone their own way. I have trust issues and it takes me a long time to make friends. I find myself constantly let down by people who I make friends with as I would do anything for true friends and I expect the same sort of trust back.

I don't have any friends and i'm...kind of torn to be honest. On the one hand i'd like friends to do things with and talk to, but on the other i don't have the energy to actually deal with those kind of relationships. I have a very close knit family though who i can talk to about anything, which i think helps.

This is my situation for the most part. I have a couple of old friends I still have shallow communication with on a semi-regular basis out of habit, though. We don't hang out often and I wouldn't care if communication stopped entirely. I think friendships/relationships are 100x more trouble than they're worth, so while I do occasionally wish I had somebody to talk to or do something with, I don't have the patience for it and I'm OK with being essentially friend-less.

And now I'm down to 2.5
1 will still be graduating halfway through next school year
The other will graduate at the end of this school year
1 I no longer consider friend, he's a terrible individual
1 is an old childhood friend who I may become good friends with next year, I will be living with him
Being friends with him opens a new avenue to better connect with other people I used to know