Should I come out as Bi to my parents

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I've discovered I am bisexual and I don't know how to tell my parents. They are both against being gay and bisexual and often make fun of people who are. I tried hinting around to my mom by saying things like "I also find women beautiful as well as men" or "I download a picture of Miley Cyrus naked." She will ask if I am gay and I'm Bi not gay so I just say.."uhh...I guess not." My dad has a coworker who is bisexual and I make jokes about how hot he is and "what's wrong with that" and my dad just keeps making fun of people who are. My mom think's it's a phase. I'm open about this in my Tumblr and I made a new Twitter for people I talk to online where I am open about Asperger's and Bisexual. I deleted the one (account) where my mom used to follow and stalk and regulate what went on it. Do you think I should tell them or not? They already suspect but they think it's not true and just laugh at me.

Is it really any of their business?

I mean, do they really need to know how you "gitcher yah-yahs"?

Heck, I'm 'straight', and I don't feel any need to tell my mother how I go about making noise in the bedroom!

If they find out, then they find out. Until then, I suggest that you keep them in the dark.

I'm kinda with Fnord on this one. Kinda. I kept my sexual orientation to myself until I was ~30 years old or so, then after seeing how free my openly gay friend lives his life, I decided to tell my parents & family. They're fine with it. I told them because it was creating a lot of stress and anxiety for me to continue concealing it, and being open about it has been immensely stress relieving.. very liberating. I still have never had a guy around them, but will someday once I'm dating someone.

So, if you need to tell them because it'll make you feel free and at ease, then tell them. If you need to tell them because maybe it'll change their attitudes a bit and they won't say negative or hurtful things about gay/bi people, and you're ok with however they react even if it's negative, then maybe it's worth taking the chance to tell them. But otherwise it's not really any of their business what you like in the bedroom and there's no real reason for them to know. Only you know if you should tell them or not and for what reasons.