Has anyone tried not dating?

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For a while when I was in high school and a bit afterwards like from 17-18 years old I was trying to get a date with anyone, my standards were high, usually I'd go after girls that looked like they met them, keyword, looked. Not to be cynical but putting them on a pedistal of infatuation and then seeing them behind closed doors kinda makes your heart feel like its been thrown down a flight of stairs. Slowly you make the transition from the girl who will play World of Warcraft with you and run Molten Core with you into the dead of night and kiss you goodnight, to the person who avoids you, smokes, drinks, and makes your parents scream and fly out the window. After a while of this, I basicly tried the whole "I'm enjoying being single thing" even though I was miserable. I guess the turning point in this was when my Aspie nature took over and I had to sort things out logicly and not make this a matter of the heart any more. I thought to myself, why do I need one, where is my financial position, do I need the stress, what are my available options, what is my backup plan if I get dumped and I hae 5 weeks of paychecks thrown away. After a a quick nap I woke up and I was light, and was fine. Feel free to discuss

I could never try not dating.

Tim

The not dating thing seems to be working wonders with me.
Mind you, I'm still in high school, so it could be an age thing, but I seem to be the only one in my grade who could get a boyfriend but chooses not to.

Hmm, yeah thats actually really interesting. Cause theres a lot of girls like that. They CAN get a boyfriend but choose not to. Thing with me is, I'm in the middle. I'm not being asked out all the time, nor am I chasing girls everywhere. But I'm not going to stress about it.

If go single again, I might not be dating for a while because relationships are complicated and I think I'll take a break from it all for a while and then start again but this time not go for romance or relationships and only go for freinds. Then I'll see where that goes.

I did the not dating thing for almost three and a half years in highschool. I had a junior high romance prior, but we had split during the summer before highschool. Not dating sucked, and i just kept lying to myself saying, "it ain't worth it because we will graduate, then never see each other again." Bad idea, because it left me fairly bitter until the end of senior year when I actually gave it a shot. And I was happier that way.

I will constantly be single and looking for a while, but given the choice between not dating or dating someone I am not truly interested in...

...I would rather not date.

Tim

im not really interested in dating anymore, now i just wanna work on myself. next month im getting my own apartment, and computer and stuff. it takes too much out of me to date. i just dont want to do it

I always say I'm through dating, and for a while I do. I think six months is the record. The bottom line I can't go against my nature; no matter how fustrating it becomes trying to find someone who understands.
damocles

I've been trying it my whole life, It's getting unpleasantly repetitive.

I have no idea what dating is. I'm either in a full relationship (usually living with the person) or alone.

don't think i would ever apply the theory of not dating...

though i find that i actually practice "not dating" quite a bit....

lol... if that makes sense

like "not dating" by default ><

Yeah, but most people that I know seem to see someone regularly, but not latch on to the extent that I'm talking about. Plus, once you have someone, they're yours - there's no more of the trying to get someone (not that I've figured out the mindset for that - I always just wait for them to capture me).

Never done dating to my knowledge. Met my ex at a Dr Who convention, so it wasn't a date...just were mind mates to begin with. I would detest being asked out on a date, that just sounds so... ick...teenage.