Eye Contact- How does it make you feel?

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I dont make eye contact naterally and have to think in order to do it!
I have tried explained to LSA that it hurts and s uncomfortable to make eye contact!
How does it make you feel?

im wierd.... i LOVE peoples eyes i find them beautiful... but i find it uncomfortable if i actually catch peoples eyes for more than a few seconds

Eye contact makes me very uncomfortable. I find it nearly impossible to maintain. When I’m talking to someone, I feign eye contact by glancing in their general direction and/or blinking a lot. If they are the one doing the talking, I can bear it a little more – but only a little – I’ll look at another point on their face, like their nose or cheek, or I’ll nod a lot to take focus off the eyes.

My best friend’s husband has the opposite problem – if he’s talking to you, he’ll completely lock eyes with you. Much more than what is normal (my husband – an NT – has noticed it too, so it’s not my imagination). I try to be a good friend and look him in the eye back, but I find that I’m concentrating on the effort so strongly that I almost miss what he is saying.

I’ve forced myself to look people in the eye during job interviews too. And it’s the same thing – the effort of maintaining eye contact like that is almost physically and mentally draining. It’s ridiculously difficult. So I still avoid it, even though I know it’s a problem for me.

Like my skin is being removed.I dont do it.Even looking at peoples faces is very brief,glance up and away.I dont think I have face blindness,I think I dont look long enough for more then a brief impression.I see people from preferal vision and it is usually enough to get the information I need as far as their expression(which I think I have learned to read,but am never sure).

I still associate eyes with sex or violence.I'm not sure why,but maintaining eye contact seems very, very personal and not something to do with strangers.It was months before I knew my boyfriend had dark grey blue eyes...I had assumed they were brown because he is Jewish...oops.

I wondered about this too, but I can look at people's faces without necessarily looking them in the eye, and still not remember what they look like minutes later. It was months before I could even picture my own boyfriend (now husband) in my head.

I find the eye-contact thing a problem. I worry about whether or not I'm staring, or not making eye contact long enough because I know it's important to a lot of people. I think I used to make people feel uneasy when I was younger because I had a tendency forget to break eye contact so I'd just stare at them. That's bad news. In primates staring is seen as a threatening gesture and in humans too, it makes people very uncomfortable.
Summer's easier, I just wear dark sunglasses when I'm out.

i dont blink unless i make a concious decicion to do so... that makes people uncomfortable...

so if im concentrating on somthing, i will be staring blankly with no facial response.... i must look dead... LOL

It makes me feel uncomfortable because I think they can read my thoughts if they look into my eyes.

It makes me tense but I can do it. It depends on my mood and energy levels. And the company.

Makes me feel like a rabbit stuck in the headlights of an on-coming car.

looking at eyes is nice. they're fascinating things. pretty, even.

making eye contact is 95% horrific. panic. run away, run away! ever own a dog? ever notice that eye contact of a prolonged nature is a threat signal? or, watch a sheepdog work. similar, i think.

for me, there are situations when it's not that way, but they're pretty limited.

I dislike eye contact. I actually find eyes quite interesting if they're not looking at me (the details of the iris can be fascinating) but making eye contact is.... ugh. Uncomfortable. A lot of the time I don't even like looking at people's faces when I'm talking to them.

If I actually try to mantain eye contact the opposite problem sometimes occurs, and I stare blankly. So overall, eye contact is a problem. I usually look at a person's nose when I'm talking to them.

I don't really like making eye contact much, not only is it uncomfortable... but it feels physically painful for anything more than a couple seconds.

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mmm,yes. i'd forgotten that part. it wrenches everything into a complete "zoom" at the other person's eyes if it's there for more than a few seconds at a time. a total sensory focus narrowed like a laserbeam, leaving everything else kind of raw.

makes me squint, eyes water, don't want to do it.

I usually don't make direct eye contact in normal converstaion. It's uncomfortable. However, if I'm trying to make an important point or if things become confrontational my eyes tend to bore right through theirs. Personnaly I dont like confrontations but sometimes we have to do what we have to do.
Raptor

NAW, they only THINK they can! Even then, many realize they can't even if they claim differently.

Steve