Aromantic?

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Anyone else on here on the aromantic spectrum? I consider myself cupioromantic because I have a lack of romantic attraction but I am in a relationship.

I've identified as aromantic before, but I realized it wasn't 100% accurate for me. I don't know what I want in relationships, but it's probably in the grey area between what's traditionally considered a close friendship vs. a romantic relationship. I like to think of myself as wtfromantic, and only my future partner needs to know the details.

I actually prefer it when I don't form a strong emotional attachment to a girl, at least at first. Call me weird but theres a good reason I don't become super infatuated with a girl I barely know.

Because every time that I get super infactuated with a girl and form a very strong one-sided attachment, I always get hurt. It never works out and I feel super angry and pissed off. Seriously though whenever I get super obsessed with a girl, they're all I ever think about and it's f*****g painful especially when I can't have them. I got a pretty bad meltdown today because of this. She left and transferred schools and is seeing this guy who was in the class I was. I almost f*****g lost it.

I consider myself aromantic. Sex to me is basically just a fun activity to do with another person (or sometimes people). When I was a teenager and in my early twenties I was more sexually active and would generally sleep with any girl I could hook up with, but that became dissatisfying after a while.

I do find sex better when I know a person and have some emotions/fondness for them, but sex doesn't change how I feel about a person and I have little desire to form a romantic relationship aside from the fact that I know being alone means there are certain parts of the human experience--which I never really considered all that important until one day I realized they were never going to happen for me--that I will likely never get to enjoy.

I'm asexual/aromantic.

Consequently, I'm happy to report the bullcrap quotient in my life is at manageable levels.

I turn on and off. Aromantic sounds very retarted. Why we have some word like that.

I had no idea that the term cupioromantic existed. I always described myself as demisexual before. Somehow I do not get sexually aroused, but I do have a sex drive. It makes it rather difficult for me, because as a man I have to get an erection before having sex, which is difficult to do without arousal. And it makes it difficult to start relationships because it's impossible for me to sexually escalate before I get friend-zoned. I need to like a woman as a friend before I feel comfortable touching her. Is that cupiosexual? Honestly in my experience the only things a woman wants from a man is either to manipulate him into giving her money, or to bang a hot guy without any other form of attachment. I don't want the first thing and I can't do the second. It makes things rather difficult, and that is not even considering the social difficulties related to autism.