What is Your Response?

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How do you guys respond or react to something to makes you angry, scared, or uncomfortable? Nowadays, whenever I feel like this, I keep my emotions bottled inside while but I used to react aggressively.

I feel upset but try to analyze the situation so I don't react inappropriately.

I'm guilty of reacting quite aggressively and shortly tempered if I feel I have been wronged in any way, shape or form..
I lose, or appear to, my temper a lot. A lot of people at work think I'm stuck up, rude.. but that's not really my intentions. I'm just trying to do my job, and unfortunately my job involves working with the public and that sort of thing really makes me stressed out.

If someone makes me feel uncomfortable, I will often act like I didn't hear it... Not sure why, but that's how it is.
If I'm scared, I will usually stand my ground and/or react aggressively (but I don't often think fast enough for instant reactions..? I'll analyze things, let them do whatever, and then decide what I need to say/do..), but it depends on the situation. Customer screaming at you? That's a 'stand your ground and don't react' situation?

I will physically leave a family event if someone upsets/is rude to me, disrespect to my being, feelings or emotions really gets me going. I will then avoid every event that the person in question attends until I believe they've forgotten about it (which takes years sometimes..).

Its not that I want to react like that, but its just what happens and people perceive it as anger/aggression even if I'm try not to have it like that.

Surprise, mostly. Which is what I feel whenever I feel anything, a kind of 'wow, what's this?' reflection.
But I ordinarily get caught up in curiosity and trying to understand, mostly because I don't understand emotions. If something makes me angry, I immediately start trying to examine it. Why is this making me angry? What bias/conceptualising is it relating to? What am I really angry about? How does this actually feel? What is it?
I will usually initially withdraw, because I don't display emotions especially negative ones, and so I can examine what's going on. I often refuse to allow emotional responses to run awya with me. Then, often I'll expose myself to whatever it was angered/scared/discomforted me in controlled doses to orient myself properly with it, until it no longer affects me. No idea what that all looks like from outside.

Kinda depends on the situation, I've worked quite hard to learn & apply the correct response to a situation. The most important thing I've found is to stop & look, then look again & THEN react rather than snapping to a conclusion because things aren't always as they first appear to an Aspie.