Transgender, but...

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I have had a lot of conflict with my gender, and since I was 15, I never felt like I had the right one. I've identify myself as transgender, but don't reveal it to anyone, as I fear what others think (thus why I am here).

I wish that I really was female, but not physically. I want people to treat me as such.

So ... You wish you were female and people would treat you like a girl - I'm guessing you're male bodied? If you were FtM you wouldn't want to be treated like a woman. If you don't want to be physically female I'd say its going to be tough to inspire others to treat you like a girl, unless you adopted a more androgynous look without actually having to transition medically. Either way, I'd say tackle the issue, especially if its making you uneasy.

Treat you as such in what sense?

If you are confused about your gender, just imagine how the people around you are going to feel? Still, a lot of people will be nice and at least try to refer to you in the gender of your choice. But you'll be doing a lot of "educating" which might make you miserable.

In my family, we say "gender is fluid." My family definition is also fluid, too.

Gender is not black and white, male or female. Find some T groups online and explore this issue more.

I don't cross dress (parents probably drag me to mental institution nor will my sister appreciate me taking her clothes) The clothes that I already wear can be both male/female.



I have told some people and they've been accommodating towards it.
i appreciate on the replies here and I think that it's better for me to at least do something about it.